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writes:k,i know this is a really odd question. but i have been wondering for soo long and i was hoping someone could answer it for me. well, i have spent the majority of my life depressed. part of elementry, middle school, and highschool. it didn't really hit me till grade 9. i don't remember anything from grade 4-8 because in those stages i hit shock, because i got bullied soo bad. grade 9, i got bullied really bad too but i had people too help me through it. i have some what low self esteem, and when it rises people shoot it back down again. yeah, i doo have some happy moments in my life.. but i am mostly depressed. now my question is, is why does depression feel soo comforting? it's like a natural high. i feel like depression is a drug. it's bad for you, but it just feels so comforting. and i wanna know why it feels comforting. is it because it's all i know? is it because i've been depressed for soo long that it just became a comforter? i'm really curious too know.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (6 November 2012):
Hi there. There's no doubt about it, feeling depressed almost certainly has become a part of who you are.
It's just about all you know, in how to react and cope with life's pressures.
Bullying isn't easy to deal with, as it can cause you to stop believing in yourself.
And it does sound like you don't really believe in yourself much.
There is a very good book I once read called - "Your Erroneous Zones" by Dr Wayne W. Dyer.
Dr Wayner W. Dyer is a psychologist.
It's the very first personal development book I ever read.
And I have to say, it has helped me so much in my own personal life, and it has made a huge difference.
The book is all about feeling good about yourself, and living in the present moment.
It talks about comparing yourself to others, blame and justify, guilt and worry, and so much more.
It's really useful stuff in that book.
I am sure you could buy it from Amazon.com for sure.
When I was told about the book it was 1978, and I went out and bought it the very next day.
When I started reading it, I can honestly say, that I started to feel like a weight was lifted from my shoulders within about the first 6-10 pages.
It's very light reading and with no big technical words, and it's funny as well, and very entertaining.
Not just entertaining though. It's absolutely relevant and very useful information.
It made a massive difference in my life, from that moment forward.
I really do urge you to read it as soon as you possibly can.
It's not a thick book - perhaps half an inch thick at the very most.
It's SO worth it to buy yourself a copy.
And it's a book you can read once and perhaps reread it. Just to make sure you understand it fully. And you can then read it again in about a year or two just to refresh the ideas in your mind again.
And as well as reading this book, it's also useful for feelings of depression to go for long leisurely walks.
Exercise is very well known to help depressive feelings, and it helps you to feel relaxed and to sleep well at night.
The walks will help the moods, and the book will help you to cope with the thoughts you have about your life.
Please let me know how you go.
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reader, MrShinra  +, writes (6 November 2012):
As someone who feels more comfortable in darkness as well, I get where you're coming from. I too was severely bullied in school and later at some of my jobs when I became an adult.
Talk to your parents about seeing a psychologist. It doesn't mean you're crazy or weak. It's the opposite. Only the truly strong seek out knowledge to improve themselves.
You're starting to develop an identity around your depression. You are not your feelings. You are not your mind. No matter what people say or do to you, you are not what they think you to be. But in a way, your depression can be a good teacher. It teaches you compassion, mercy. It can humble you. It can teach you what NOT to do to others. You learn to be a better man.
Good luck, I know you can get through this.
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