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writes:So the past few days, umm monday tues and tonight, have been awkward, she usually calls me at night, we usually tlak every night, but the past few nights i text her yo su should callme, and she ask why? and for what?and idk why shes being liek this, even tho , during the day shes randomly called me still, but like tonight i call u shud call me in a bit, and she goes, Y? i dun get it, a couple weeks ago she todl me she loved me, but monday she said she didnt mean it like that, but nobody just tells their friends they randomly love them, i know she was serious and for some reason shes not accepting it and holding back, i know her ex is still bothering her tho and she says shes not ready for a relationship, but this girl has told me i do mean alot to her before, and shes never met anyone as nice as me, so idk, what do when she ask why i wanna call her i just go, just to talk, because too be honest i really love talking to her, i think the ex is bothering her alot, which shes alreayd said she wud get over him in an instance if she cud but she cant ( they went out for 3 years) so wahts going on?
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reader, answeringmachine +, writes (19 March 2009):
Enjoimx's advice is excellent. Space is something that she needs right now, and maybe you need it too to see things a bit more clearly. She may feel pressured by you calling, even though you just want to talk, to her she may not be sure what she's feeling just yet.
It sounds like you genuinely care for her, and I think that she will likely realize that. But if she doesn't, you'll have given yourself time to move on too if it comes to that. I know sometimes that's not what we want, but it happens. I really hope things work out for you though, best of luck.
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (19 March 2009):
 Take a step back from this relationship and you will see that she either regains interest in you (because she misses you and genuinely wants to talk to you), or she might just start being more distant, at which point you know shes just not that into you, and you can kindly move on.
Honestly one of the best strategies, your best tool in a relationship is to just take a step back, take some space for yourself and give her space, things will become clear. Not necessarily what you want to happen will happen, but something true will happen. Something more true and genuine than constantly trying to wonder and communicate. Alot of times people MIScommunicate because they dont want to hurt the other person. They arent necessarily lying, but they are holding back true feelings.
So yeah, just take a step back, dont call her for awhile, drop the ball mid court, and let her find it and pass it back to you.
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