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writes:HiMy ex and I broke up 7 months ago. I'm currently with a guy who treats me far better and loves me far more than my ex. I can't seem to get over my ex, no matter what I do about it. 1.) is there anything I can do to try to get over him?2.) I feel like I'm not being fair to my bf, but he's begging me not to end it. Where do I go from here?Thanks so much.--GG
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (8 December 2009):
GoGreen126 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your responses. I really appreciate them. A few things I thought I should clarify:-my ex broke up with me because my feelings were singficantly stronger than his. I think I really was and am in love with him (though I've been told many times that I know nothing about love because I'm a teenager. I do accept that as a valid point because I'm young and inexperienced, but I truly believe firmly that I love him. -I've been with the bf I'm with 3 or 4 times--a year and a half of on and off relationships-I have feelings for the guy I'm with, but not anything remotely close to my ex. It's more like sibling love.-my ex is my best friend-myself and both guys involved are all 15, soon to be 16Thanks--GG
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reader, Male20  +, writes (8 December 2009):
you need to establish if you seriously love your ex boyfriend.
have you thought that the feelings may not be love just a strong feeling because you know you cant have him at this moment in time?
obviously you are going to think about your past but you must remeber that it ended for a reason. you gave that relationship a shot and it didnt work out.
depending on how long you have been with your new boyfriend you may not love him or you may only you will know how you truely feel.
If you are constantly thinking of your ex then that is something yu eed to get over before starting new relationships with others. its not fair on you or your partner to get involved before you have gotten over your ex.
You cant use another person to try get you over your ex it is something that your own mind must come to terms with and have thought about and understood.
You may always have feelings for your ex but you should understand to what extent these feeelings go and how you deal with them
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 December 2009):
Ask yourself this question. Do you love your new boyfriend?
It sounds to me like you don't. You're still in love with your ex. Though it's sad for your boyfriend, it's actually also sad and unfair to you. Yes, your new guy treats you very well, but it means nothing if you don't love him as much as your ex. My advice would be to focus entirely on your life, and what you want out of it, without any guys to complicate matters while you get over your ex. This way, you can go out with friends, have fun, focus on your hobbies and your life's dream, and you can do it all without the pressure of being in a relationship. The more you try to force yourself to get over your ex for the sake of your new guy, the more you won't get over your ex. Yes, your new boyfriend will be hurt, but what happens if in a year, you still aren't over your ex and you split then. More pain for you both. focus on your life now. You're still in your teens, and it will get a lot better for you. There will be a Mr Right out there, but he's neither your boyfriend or your ex. Focus on your life without the complications of a guy in it for now. You'll get there.
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