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writes:My favourite teacher is not himself anymore, he used to favour me but now it's getting weird, he used to let me off with things; he still lets me off some things about no as much anymore. But it's weird how one week he's nice to me then the next week he's ignoring me and just blanking me, then he does it again, one week nice, one week not and so on. I don't like it, it's driving me crazy. It's like he's intending to do this, because I have seen this happening for a few weeks now!This is what he used to show me a few weeks ago:He would give me a little extra attention, but being a teacher, he can’t show favouritism, I think. Sometimes he'll speak to me one day and not the next, if I looked up you might catch him looking at you. Sometimes he would speak to me when I was walking through the corridors - mainly when I was alone - it would just be a hello, how are you . Sometimes we will have small arguments. He would occasionally ask me to stay behind sometimes just to talk with me.Don't think of me as stupid because, I am quite shy, I have lots of home problems, and I don't have a great father figure at all!! So this is why I look up to him (he has young kids of his own), he's nice, and it more annoys me when he does this when I look up to him. (If you've read my last post, you'll know that I have strong symptoms of social anxiety-I have not yet spoken to anyone-too scared to). Anyway, why is he acting like this, and NO!! I DON'T! Have a crush or "like" him. I just what to know why he's like this?? Thanks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 March 2013):
 Franny,
do not over think this. He has bad days or weeks like others... things at work or home could be affecting him.
I can promise you, that it's not personal for you sweetie.
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reader, franny1297 +, writes (9 March 2013):
franny1297 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks i really appreciate your answers!!! :D
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reader, Musician +, writes (9 March 2013):
As a male teacher, I sometimes feel awkward around students your age. It's an issue I've always had with women, and seeing a girl your age can trigger those feelings.
I have a long-term girlfriend whom I live with, but it's weird - some weeks I'll have confidence with my students and things will be alright and the relationship will be good, and other times I'll blank them, not for any fault of their own, but because of my own issues.
Also, since I suffer from social anxiety, and since the students might too, maybe the two sufferers might have a lot to contribute to the mutual suffering? Just a thought.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 March 2013):
 People have all kinds of stressors in their lives they don't reveal to their students, colleagues, friends or even family.
Some in his family is dying. Someone in his family is suspected to have cancer. He's having problems sleeping. His dog died. His son was arrested for selling pot. His wife's family is visiting and is driving him insane.
His hobby is growing orchids and there's an aphid infestation in his greenhouse, right before the big show. He's distracted because his contacts hurt. He wrenched his knee and it hurts like crazy. He had a cold and is struggling to get over it. He has a massive crush on Miss Peach and it's causing him problems at home. His wife is pregnant but it's not an easy pregnancy, so he hasn't had a good night's sleep in several weeks. He has a new puppy and has to get up every 3 hours to let him out to pee.
I could go on and on, but the point is that whatever he's doing or not doing, it likely has very little to do with you. Not that you aren't a nice person or a lovely student, just that you are just one small part of his much larger world.
As for the social anxiety thing, well, if you want to get over it, you'll have to work up some courage to tell someone. If some part of you enjoys the pain it causes, well, I guess it will take you longer to get it dealt with. No one else gets to live your life. It's your life, why not make it a good one? Get the help you need. Life can be good, if you allow people to help you.
Good luck.
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