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writes:My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost a year now. We shared a great relationship until he went for this trip with his girl friends. After coming back he has started acting really weird. He doesn't have anything to talk about with me. He is not even bothered about anything that's happening in my life. He doesn't even argue with me or u know have those fights which are pretty healthy in every relationship. And when I asked him what changed he told me during the trip he realized that he was being too hard on me and so he wants me to give all the freedom I deserve. But this sounds quite dicey to me because he doesn't talk to me much these days and I'm not happy with the way this is moving :( Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 March 2013):
 Sounds like he is creating a distance from you, mostly a break up is looming. I would advise you to have a chat with the lad, maybe it is for the best for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell there's this turtle festival. He was attending it with his frnds.. Its an overnight trip. N I didn't go coz he never asked me to come. Thanku guys for the answers xx
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (8 March 2013):
 Has his interaction with any of these women changed since the trip? Is he closer than usual to any of them since the trip?
Maybe on this trip he decided that he doesn't want to fight with you anymore, but it is rather strange for such a sudden change in his behaviour.
Hopefully the truth will emerge soon. All I can say is that I would be just as suspicious as you. Your instincts are never wrong.
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reader, Pixie.Greatorex  +, writes (8 March 2013):
 It sounds like you have got to a stage where you are no longer willing to put up with the new unfamiliar behaviours of your boyfriend towards you without further satisfactory explanation. It could be that he is being genuine but it does appear at first glance and without being in the situation myself that this behaviour warrents at least a little bit of suspicion. I suggest that you ask him when he is able to make time to talk to you because you have something that has been bothering you increasingly that you feel needs to be discussed. If he is not willing to do this, bearing in mind that you are only in control of your own behaviour, that you then must consider if this is a relationship you want to be in longer term; you could give it a little more time and see how he behaves towards you but if he is not willing to have the conversation at all let alone alter his behaviour then he has left you with very few choices. However, if he is willing to talk about it and you feel he genuinely does care about how you are feeling and he reflects this with his behaviour by making the effort to make you feel secure then you have a foundation to trust his word and to move forward. I hope this helps in some way, maybe just knowing that someone somewhere is taking you seriously and my thoughts are with you. Good luck x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 March 2013):
Tell us more about this trip with his girl friends, and why didn't you go?
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