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It irks me that I have to initiate sex now!

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Question - (12 September 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 12 September 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid, I am way too horny. I shouldn't be this way. I don't orgasm and I only started having sex three months ago. But every time I see my boyfriend, I want him. Tonight we went fishing, he dropped me home and I groped and kissed him like mad in the car. I would have done it right there if I could have and omg I scared myself! I want more PDA but dunno how to get it...I want him like crazy but he doesn't have his own place anymore and neither do I. If he so much as touches me, I get a punch of lust and get agitated. I get frustrated sometimes, I luv my bf but it irks me that I have to initiate sex now. Before it was all him. But now he seems to wait for me. I want it 24/7 and I dunno how we'll get together anymore...argh! How can I stop being so lusty?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010):

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My bf is 15yrs older...maybe thats it? But hes only turned me down twice cause he wasn't feeling great...can anyone tell me where a good place would be to be intimate besides motels/hotels...? I dont think I'd like those... :/

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A female reader, Oregongrl1 United States +, writes (12 September 2010):

Well he doesn't have to start anything like you said your horney and groping him all the time. you say he use too all the time not no'more? well go figure look up. and it could also be a turn off to him!

Good Luck!

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A female reader, sarahrose20 Canada +, writes (12 September 2010):

being lusty isnt the problem its finding a place where you can be together, as for you not being satisfied i find using toys is great even though i have a boyfriend and we have a healthy sexual relationship he also uses the toys on me and enjoys pleasing me. but at first he was jealous and insecure about me buying it until he saw how much fun it was.

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A male reader, wisernow United States +, writes (12 September 2010):

I need more information in order to address your question..... But l weill assume you are young as is your b/f. He probably has some experience but not enough to cope with your strong desires.

As a youth with a body that produced far too much testosterone l can sympathize with your feeling of being hot and horny most of the day... From 15 to 20 l masturbated 3 or 4 times a day just to keep my sanity..... and to be able to think of anything other than sex.

Have you considered the fact you may be a nymphomaniac? Being so does not make you a bad person... no way... in fact males dream of finding such ladies. As your first lover all your sexual fantasies are about him... your b/f.... yet this does not mean other guys will not excite you.... Right now you are focused on "him."

As for not having had an orgasm that may simply be that your sometimes lover lacks the skills to bring a girl to this height of passion. Perhaps he is not aware of the need for foreplay such as oral and finger stimulation of the clitoris and any other erogenos area of your body.

Finding a suitable place where both of you are comfortable and relaxed is important.

As a young man with little cash l found that spreading a blanket in a remote and safe place was all it took to get a girl in the mood.

Have you tried masturbating? Its a great way to jump start your orgasms.

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