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writes:I was with my boyfriend for 2 years, after a year we had a break because i was being overly argumentative, and we never fought, it was only 2 weeks and ever since then we were better than ever. we wet on several holidays together and spent a lot of time together. Then after a small argumemnt on the phone. i got frustrated with him and we went to bed angry at eachother, the next mornig i called him and it was all over!he was listing things i said which weren;t true, he exaggerated everything as if he was trying to find a reason to end it with me, he wouldnt even see me, and i still haven't since after 4 weeks. I texted him a few times just saying i dont understand, and i just got replies telling me to get over him.ive been out partying a lot with girlfriends but it still hurts so much. i cry about it every night.I don't know how he can be so stubborn, it feels as if he is forcing himself to move on because we broke up over something so small and silly.i dont know what to do, should i call him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): i dont think he fell out of love with me because a week before we broke up he said he was so happy with our relationship.
The reason we had a break was because i was mainly very stressed over important exams, and 2 days before we broke up his grandad died thats why ive been unsure if it is really what e wanted
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 Whatever his reasons were, made up, exaggerated or not, his decision was he wanted out. That is what you need to relate to and understand. He took a decision he thought would be best for him, and he doesn't have to convince you of his reasons to do so. You didn't want the breakup. But he did. You need to accept that.
You should not call him, it will only hurt you more. You need to move on and let him go, I am sorry. Cut all contact with him and it will hurt less.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 I get the same feeling as CaringGuy. I lean toward him falling out of love with you some time ago and this was just the excuse he needed to end it.
I think you need to move on. If he does realize it was a mistake, he will call you, but I doubt that will happen. I wish I had a different feeling about this, but I just don't.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 October 2010):
I'd suggest that those things he 'exaggerated' need to be looked at. Because men don't break up over something silly. There are one of two things happening here.
1 - Those things he said were true, and this has been playing on his mind for some time, and that small argument was the last straw. (The fact that you went on a break because you were overly argumentative sadly points to this being true).
2 - He fell out of love some time ago and this was the exit he was looking for.
I suspect that this is something that has been coming for some time, and this was the final straw. Be single, enjoy your own life, spend time moving on. But he's well and truly gone, and I doubt he will be coming back.
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