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writes:I am a 27 year old with a 50 year old boyfriend that I met two years ago. We met as I moved into the house he was subleasing, relocating far away from my friends and family, and have been dating him for a year. He is by far the best guy I have ever dated, except for a few minor issues mostly relating to his judgment. He also has two kids who are middle school age and are turning from young children into teenagers before my eyes. The changing attitude of the kids becoming bossy to me has created additional friction in our already strained relationship. When we were all sitting together watching the 4th of July fireworks, my boyfriend threw a piece of watermelon at the back of my head which hurt and when I turned around angry he and his children were laughing. I am not sure if I am over reacting to this as he has spent the whole day helping me with things and cooking, he said he was just playing. He says hitting me was an accident, but it was so heavy, I thought he threw a tape measure and am wondering if this so called "accident" is a red flag. I love him very much, but he does things that are super upsetting every once in a while, and I don't know if I should take a break or what. I wonder what people think of this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh my, this makes me all very sad. I appreciate your thoughts. He does seem to listen when I ask him not to do things, its just there are so many things I begin to feel like a real nag. Another time he was just playing and jumped over me and accidentally kicked me in the face. :( He is a nice guy otherwise, I am very conflicted about his actions.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Take a permanent break, he has no respect for you. He's fifty and you're twenty-seven, who's got the better deal here? Throwing stuff at anyone is just plain immature, and if he thinks it's funny to make you the butt of his juvenile humour in front of his kids, that's a big warning sign that he's a jerk. As far as his kids being 'bossy' towards you, who needs that crap? If he doesn't respect you his kids won't either, and things will get worse as they get older.
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (5 July 2009):
Make sure he knows it bothers you,if he keeps on doing it once he knows, then get rid of him.
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