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writes:I really don't like being fingered. I don't like doing it to myself and I do not like my bf doing it to me either. Is this weird? Are we both doing it wrong? It's just a shame because it turns my bf on more than anything :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Just tell him your feelings and ask him to try to finger your clit first then see how u feel when you get wet. This always works for me when ive been dry all day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): yes, believe it or not finger hurts more than the penis although the finger is thinner, but it is boney and there is a nail at the end of it which could injure the vagina walls. whereas the penis has velvety texture and very very smooth head.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 December 2010):
 I don't think it's weird at all. If he wants to stimulate you he really doesn't need to insert a finger at all, he can just concentrate on stimulating your clit. Now when you are enjoying that... you might enjoy a finger or not.
No matter, if you don't like it I think you should tell him.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (16 December 2010):
 As dirtball said, everybody likes different things. It's not weird that you just may not like it. However, like everything else sex related, it takes time and experience to achieve maximum enjoyment. You have to learn to understand your body and so does your partner. The same is highly true when it comes to good oral sex. Many women don't enjoy men giving them oral sex because they're not being stimulated the way their body wants. Talk to your partner, tell him what feels good and what doesn't. The worse thing any partner can do is be close minded and act like "This is how I finger a women, end of story". You may like it a certain way. Talk him through it. If it never feels good, then it never feels good. No big deal.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Everybody likes different things. There's nothing wrong if you don't like it, that may mean it's just not your thing. It's possible you're doing it wrong. I've found that gentle stimulation of the clit is best, with possibly some insertion once you get good and wet.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Does he hurt you when he has his fingers in you? Possibly putting too many inside at once? Do you feel pain when you do it to yourself? Are you lubricated when he is attempting to finger you?
It could just be something that you aren't into and aren't comfortable with and that's normal. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes.
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