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writes:me and my boyfriend were dating for seven months an we split up for two years we are now getting back together and he wants to marry me and i want to marry him but be engaged for about two years is this too soon for our relationship?
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (29 March 2007):
 It's like Rockefeller said when asked how much his yacht cost. "If you have to ask, you can't afford it." If you're asking, then you probably should be waiting for a while. This is NOT something you want to do in a hurry and regret later. This is something to take your time with and make it right the first time. Yes, people can get divorced. But you don't want that for yourself.
Let your feelings settle, get to know your guy (and yourself) better, and it won't be too long before you will know the answer ... whether it's yes or no ... without having to ask anybody. But be sure it's a HEAD answer as well as a heart answer and a sex answer! You're marrying a whole person, and so is he.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Only You & Your Boyfriend can decide what`s right for the both of you. You are both still very young. Sometimes, young love like yours can lead to a long & fullfilling marriage; sometimes the parties were too young, and in time grew apart & divorced. It`s probably not what you want to hear, but, presuming there`s no family problems; could you both sit down with each of your parents and ask them their advice? Our parents know us very well, and only want the best for us; and if they are not biassed, their advice can be invaluable. Please let us know how you get on, With Love, Heather.
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reader, endlesssong +, writes (29 March 2007):
 If you feel like its too soon, then maybe it is. Are you just now getting back together and getting engaged? After two years being apart? If that's the case then maybe you should wait a little, two years is a long time to be away from each other and people change over time. I do think its a good idea you're planning to wait two years before getting married though.
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reader, Melanne +, writes (29 March 2007):
 The fact that you are asking whether it is too soon for your relationship is good because it shows you are thinking about things, but it also shows a doubt. If there is doubt there then I suggest you wait a while and carry on going out with him and getting to know him. If you rush into things and they don't work out you will be very hurt espescially if you get married as divorce is never easy.It really sounds as though you need to work more at your relationship. Saying this I was seeing my husband for 3 weeks before we got a tatoo of each others intials and then we got engaged. 4 months later we got married. We have been married for 4 years now and have a lovely 15 month old daughter. We fell in love at first sight and had no doubts we were right for one another.If your boyfriend is the right one for you, you will know deep down. If there is any doubt then I say wait until you are sure it is the right move to make. Getting married is a big thing and not something you can take lightly. It has to be the right decision for you and I don't want to persuade you either way it has to be your decision. Nobody can tell you what to do.I am also wondering why you split up for two years and whether you are still having the same problems. If you are this is building a marriage on a rocky foundation. If you do get engaged then it is easier to get out of than marriage if you decide that you are not right for one another. I would advise you to talk with your boyfriend it is better out in the open and you can work through the decision together, but don't feel pressurised into making a decision you don't want.
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