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writes:My g/f got drunk for the first time in her life and then walked to her room with a guy. He gave her a kiss and she didn't object. Then she told him to leave. We have been together for 4 years and I really love her and she is really sorry...Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): HMMMMMM unlike the others i would ask myself did she just kiss him?
if that all that happened then let it go
if not.....drop her!!!!
Getting drunk can do crazy things but so can people use it as an excuse!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): it was a one off she most probably wont so it again, drink does silly things to people, plus everyone’s entitled to one mistake. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): This is a first - so forget out it. Drink does these things to people. She has never done it before, you have been together for 4 years, forget it.
Take care
xx
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reader, Bubble  +, writes (29 March 2007):
My advice to you would be to take more care of your girl... If you let her get into that state then you should be thankful that she has it in herself to tell him to go away..... If there was something to worry about then she would've just carried on...
You knew it her first time getting drunk and you left out for the wolves.... Forgive her and promise to take more care of her in the future.
People get sniffed out by 'predators' when they are drunk who decide to try and take advantage of thier vunerbilities and that is what has happened here. If she knows how you feel about it and she cares about you then she will learn by her mistake and it won't happen agai... If it does that is the time to judge the situation.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (29 March 2007):
 By all means,find a way to forgive her. But if you can, also find a way (gently) to suggest that she might want to watch it on the alcohol from now on. Her behavior suggests that she can behave erratically when she's had a bit too much, and this can spell big problems for your future with her. If she can get this under control now, you'll both be a whole lot better off.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (29 March 2007):
 My Advice? Let it go!! You`ve been together for 4 Years, and she`s never cheated (or wanted to). He kissed her, when she was drunk, then she told him to leave, and he did!. Finish, Period, End of Story.
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reader, winter_one +, writes (29 March 2007):
You've been together for 4 years, and you do really love her. On that basis, given that:
it was the first time she'd ever been drunk;
that she told the guy to leave after the kiss;
and that she seems genuinely sorry,
I'd be inclined to give her another chance and let her prove it was a one-off, alcohol induced accident.
As has been pointed out before though, I'd certainly make sure she knows that sort of thing is completely unacceptable and that you may not be as forgiving in the future.
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reader, Midge +, writes (29 March 2007):
 If it were me, I'd not be too impressed. However, since it was her first time drunk, I would give them the benefit of the doubt.
I would however stress to her that there are boundaries and she was borderline! If she ever stepped on that line or over that line again, its over.
If she has apologised and is sincere, the chances are she'll not do it again. But she needs to know that there are boundaries.
Geluk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): If you are willing to (and can) forgive her then don't leave her but if you are worried that something like that's going to happen again then do leave her and move on. It's your choice at the end of the day.
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