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writes:What would you make of this?...My husband and I are driving in the car, he says:"I'm going out of town on Monday I have a meeting and I put in for two nights so I can do this other thing while I'm there and kill two birds with one stone."To which I casually said, "Oh, okay. What other thing?..." Then my husband starts screaming at me out of the blue and saying "Why do you have to ask so many questions. I shouldn't have to tell you every little detail! So tell me, does that sound like a man with a chip on his shoulder who is hiding something or what! I think as his wife, I'm entitled to know a little more about his overnight trips, and I think most women would agree. I also feel like if a man is going to get defensive out of the clear blue sky, he's hiding something! I should also note that when I have to work late, or have meetings, he usually asks me alot of questions which he quickly forgets because I don't wig out when he does. Why? Because I have nothing to hide. So when he asks me, "A meeting with who?....Where is your meeting?....When will you be done?....I don't flip out. I just want to know if anyone else finds his behavior to be suspicious. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers! All very good. To the first Aunt Cupidus, yes he has done things earlier in our relationship that gave me pause. Years before we were married but already in a committed relationship there was a woman who emailed him, inviting him for drinks and more. He promptly emailed her back, giving her the dates he would be in her city (same city he's going to now) and which hotel he would be at. When I discovered their messages I confronted him. He said he thought it was a joke (yeah, right). We got past it, but sometimes when he travels I still wonder. Especially when he's vague with me. So am I a monkey on his back?...I try not to be, but obviously it's his own fault if he feels like I question him. The fact that he can't speak rationally about these details (to put my mind to rest) speaks volumes to me, and further makes me wonder if someone else has been making him offers.
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 I would find his behavior suspicious. Especially since he grills you about your whereabouts and such. WHy is it such a big deal for you to know a few more details. What if there is an emergency?
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reader, Quirkay  +, writes (29 April 2011):
I'd be suspicious ... sorry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): Girl u know your hb better than anyone else: of course he is hiding something. And by yelling at u he hopes to put u in your place so that you quit questioning him.
So he may have some extra things to do, but to take 2 extra night away from home? Alarm bell....
LoveGirl
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reader, Kirchy +, writes (29 April 2011):
 I wouldn't worry too much about it. He could be trying to arrange something special for you. If you seriously think that he's hiding something then you need to talk to him. Tell him you're worried about what's going on. I know it's easier said than done but you just need to pluck up the courage to talk to him because when you do at least you'll know what's going on. If it's not the answer that you want to hear then obviously you'll need to deal with that if it happens but at least you'll know what's going on.
Hope this helps. :)
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 I don't know the man, does he wig out on other things, like cleaning the BBQ? I have zero idea what his intentions are.
Ask him or follow him, depends on how much you trust him.
What things other that "THAT" would bother you if you knew he were doing them. Poker, Golfing with the buds, anything.
Maybe he finds you controlling, suspicious, a monkey on his back, who knows but him and you.
But if you didn't ask, why not?
"Are you doing something behind my back that would upset me?"
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