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*oxemilyxox
writes:hi i just got back from turkey i fell in love with a beautiful man working on beach and in bars. he wrote me a note to meet him that night, i was shocked as i had not really spoke to himi went and he told me a story about someone conning him for money, a friend of his, i started to get suspicuous, and thought maybe mind games for me to trust him. i kept quiet and carryed on enjoying my romance with himanother day he showed me electric bill and asked can i help as he needs it for his son. i didnt, he went cold and i said ur only after my money, he said no i just have problems and i think we should seeing each other and when i have sorted it i will text u.i left and he called me back asking me to be with him as he was upset, then the tv broke and his could not watch it, again asked me for help. i got tv repaired for his son.next he lost his job, which i know is true as he was spending too much time with me, then that he could not pay his rent, i heard landlady on phone saying she was going to police to have him removed, again was asked for money, i said no.next day all his problems were sorted as he got job back, and was lent money from somewhere. but asked for 100 for all to be clear, again i said stop asking, he went cold again, and told me it was over as he did not trust me.next day i took his shoes back as i borrowed them he told me he loved me, and was sorry for ruining relationship for asking for money and can i forgive him, i was going home that day, and he said he would come to england if i sent him money for visa. i said i would but i would pay for it direct.i got home and he wanted money next day saying he was going to get visa and needed 1500 for everything. i made out i payed it in. to see what he did. then i received mails off a women who he told me about was saying nasty things.she warned me to stay away from him, as she was seeing him and all he wanted was money, he told her he loved her, and her and her friend are writing to me saying he is a con, sex addict and fraudster. she is really hurt.i asked him about all this and he said if u believe her thats fine. i said i did know what to think, but money is cancelled. he called wanting to chat, then texted and said he does not want to talk, as had told his boss he was going to england, and i have ruined his life.who do i beleive and what do i do, i really liked this man, but my hols are over and i am back to reality and do not know who to trust. have i done anything wrong. what does anyone else make of all this
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (11 July 2010):
 hes just after you money hunnie dont fall for this guy he is playing you like a fool! as they say a man would never ask for money!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 July 2010):
Girl, wake up! This man is taking your money! He's a crook. No wonder he's deleted you. You said no. Just forget him.
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reader, xoxemilyxox +, writes (11 July 2010):
xoxemilyxox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdate help please, he texted me this morning, and said he had 230, but needed 920 total for visa bus fare and everything to get here? can i help with rest.
i replyed i have found out it wil cost only 140 for bus stamp etc., i said you have enough and thats all he needs and as he has 230 he can do it. now he has deleted me off facebook and not responded. whats everyones thoughts?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 July 2010):
He is a BIG fraudster. Cut all contact. Immediately.
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (9 July 2010):
Hi,
From a mans point of view Sorry to say this, but I agree with the other two posts on here.
He's looking for a "rich" western woman and sees you as a good way to get out of Turkey.
A real man would not ask a woman for money
Cheers
Ben
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (9 July 2010):
 You have not done anything wrong really, you have just been swept up in a holiday romance and obviously have not heard the stories about Turkish men!
Now not all Turkish men are this way but a lot of them try and meet English women when they are on holiday and then romance them so ultimately they can come over to England and get a visa. And it seems you have met one of these men! He clearly was interested in your money from the start - from early on he was showing you bills and telling you about his money problems, he obviously saw you as a target and you fell for it.
Your only mistake was to give him money to fix the TV - he saw at that point you were willing to give him money so he continued to pursue you for this reason! Have you even met his son? That could have just been another excuse to get money from you! I mean he was so quick to decide he is coming to England, what about his son? Was he coming too?
I'm sorry you have fallen for him, you have been a bit unlucky in meeting someone like him. Dont worry, you have not ruined his life, he is just trying to make you feel guilty so you will pay for him to come over here.
Basically if he really loves you and wants to be with you he will save up the £1500 he needs to get over here and then after however long that takes he will get to England. But my guess is he will have found another naieve tourist by then and will be trying the same thing on with her!
So put this down as a bad experience and forget all about him, he will be fine and so will you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (9 July 2010):
never trust something thats very short lived for they are not permanent and not set in stone ok so he wooed you a few nights but you dont know him surely enough to get married their and then or move or you get my drift.. if i were you you had a lucky break you should read half the horror story about abroad ok their are some that work but those are far and few inbetween move on and find someone who wants to spend money on you not constantly ask for it!!!
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