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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Ok so I have a problem. So theres this group of four really nice guys all best friends lets call them D,S,A and J. In primary school I went out with D but we broke up and now I thought we were just friends he says he likes me. Okay so S and J and told me they like me. But the only one i like is A the thing is he seems the most into me. Basically I used to sit next to him in English and RE and he always talked to me and defended me. He started brushing his leg against mine and he also started making references to us going out. Anyway at sports day he was running 600m and it was the last 150m he was coming last so we were cheering him anyway but then he stared at me for a least three seconds and started running really really fast. later all his friends were shouting A LIKES EMMA really loudly and he was blushing really badly. But then later we were talking about stuff on msn and he suddenly says "Everyone things i like u" so i say "everyone thinks i like u" so he says "do u?" and i go "yes" and he logs off and completely blanks me for a week but still stares at me in lessons and gets all shy when he does things like open a door for me. btw yesterday i went to go get a rubber [mod note for US readers, this means 'eraser'] from his friend and he was just staring up at me like a little puppy. Please help me what should I do about this????
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Hi.
Lucky you! A group of four guys like you, that has to do something for your self-esteem at least, right?
The first thing that springs to mind is to be very very careful. If all four best friends like you and you pick just one, it might be hard for the other three to accept you two as a couple or hang out with you guys when you're together. Guys aren't as good as girls as expressing their feelings so chances are he does like you but is afraid of admitting it because he's shy. The fact that his three best friends like you could also be troubling him.
I'd just give him some time. If he's shy then confronting him might just make him feel cornered and he'd probably just deny any potential feelings to save some pride. Let him approach you on his own terms, just be friendly and laid-back and approachable; these are the qualities that he'd probably want in a girlfriend anyway, right?
But again, be very careful. If A does ask you out, go slowly in your relationship and give the other three time to adjust, guy best friend circles can be just as close as girls, they just show their feelings a lot differently, (if at all).
I hope this helped you,
peace,
xxx
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