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writes:Hi everyone This is my first time posting on this, and my friend told me its very helpfull, im not sure how much details to go into but this has really confused me and have asked a few people but not really had a answer lol, So a guy im seeing after sex i was just chilling as u do but he again started rubbing inside me again all over, it reminded me like he was trying to make sure thd cum was actually inside me, Now we have spoken about babies etc but ive never had a guy do this to me after sex before, He wasnt doing it rough or anything in fact very gental and i found it nice and relaxing i was just wondering if anyone has experienced this before? Could it be some sort of fantasy or could it mean making sure his cum is inside ? I know he would love a baby its just as mentioned never experienced thid before Many thanks for the advice in advanced Amy_lou Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2020): OP, considering your age group, you are woefuly ignorant about sexual matters. If you had intercourse without a condom, he knows and you know where his ejaculate went. You don t even say that this man is your boyfriend. To believe that his fingers pushing the semen around in your vagina increases your chance of pregnancy, sounds like some kind of pregnancy fantasy, of yours! Having unprotected sex is unwise even if you are on another type of birth control, because no method protects against disease, but for condoms! A baby is a Wonderful Blessing for a married couple who are in Love! As a single person though, risking pregnancy and discussing babies has no place! You must be in a commited loving marriage and mutually want a child! The couple must have financial means to care for and raise a child up, and teach him or her to be a good and productive adult! Babies are serious business, and it takes a lifetime commitment by a good Loving Mother, and Strong Dedicated Dad, who never cuts and runs! Please Be Safe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2020): You should be thinking do I want a baby. You could be having one in about 8 months. Myself never did what he's doing after.
Now that I think about it, instinctively I don't want to contaminant the process with my germs.
Some male insects remove a rivals cum from his new girlfriend, before depositing his -- taking the dirty deed up a notch.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (31 May 2020):
 He had already come inside you, and rubbing semen in would not make a iota of difference as for odds of getting pregnant. If either one of you believes that it does , I guess you need to educate yourself better about reproduction.
I think you are asking the wrong question, i.e. after all, what he does to have a baby from you should not matter , unless you want absolutely and undoubtely the same. So you know he'd like to have a child from you… Are you sure of that ? Who told you ? Can he provide for a child ? Are you ready to be a mother ? Are you ready to be a single mother if he splits ? Have you got enough income to raise a child on your own ?...
And if you are not 100% sure that you want a baby now, or that you want it from him,...then why oh why are you having unprotected sex ?
Anyway, FWIW, no I don't think your guy could be so dumb ( then again, with guys you never now,lol ) to believe that by rubbing his semen in you he'll get you pregnanat . I think he is simply trying to make you ready for round two, by pleasuring you manually.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (31 May 2020):
 PLEASE tell me you are using reliable contraception. You can't just go around having babies with a guy you are "seeing". If you don't know him well enough to ask him what he is doing and why, you absolutely do not know him well enough to start having babies with him.
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reader, Justryingtohelp +, writes (31 May 2020):
Are you taking precautions? Babies need more commitment than "a guy I'm seeing". As for your question, nobody knows but him. Maybe it's something that turns him on. Maybe he thinks it turns YOU on. If you are considering having a baby together, surely you should be able to talk about what goes on the bedroom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2020): Babies are wonderful, and they are marvelous blessings. They deserve to be in stable homes with two parents. They deserve two parents willing to see to their safety, provide for their needs, protect them; and guide them until they are grown-up and able to provide for themselves. Once they become responsible adults; then be there to be their adult-children's source of wisdom, guidance, and moral-support. To watch them also become good-parents; until you see yet another generation of great grand-children, and close your eyes for the last-time.
We have too many irresponsible men dumping babies on foolish females who expect nothing from men. We have children with nonchalant absentee-fathers; while their poor mothers scramble and struggle to bring them up alone. Sperm-donors dropping their spawn all over creation, and taking-off before they have to take financial-responsibility for the offspring they've made. Fatherless-boys who have no male role-model accept ruthless gangs; or examples set by spoiled celebrity-idles and egotistical-athletes to show them what it is to be a man. Fatherless-girls who have no example of real manhood and male-leadership, to show her what she should expect from a man; before she becomes his bride, or the mother of his children. Even to have the hope that a man should ever want to take her as his wife, before giving her children she has to scrape and struggle all alone, to raise all by herself.
Yes, it would be nice to bounce a sweet giggling bundle of joy in your arms. It would also be even nicer to raise that child with a man who will stick around to care for both the mother and his child; as they mold that child together to bring that child up to be a good-man or a good-woman. Not just another generation of children without fathers, and only struggling-mothers. Children struggling with their identities, sexual-orientation, and unable to deal with all the curves and challenges life will throw at us. Knowing nothing of their origin or heritage. Knowing nothing about the man who made mother pregnant; and having to make it their business to find him sometime later in their lives, to determine why he never stuck around?
Thank God my dad married my mother, and showed us boys how to be real men! We all contribute to raising not only our own kids, but nieces and nephews. We all take responsibility to show what real family is. We don't breed like lower animals, and leave our offspring behind.
Does this man love you. Is he willing to spend his life with you, to care for you, and respect you? If not...why should you bear him a child? Why doesn't your child deserve a father who loves his/her mother enough to marry her and make a family?
Is this how you would want to conceive a child??? So casually, or incidentally?!!
Too old-fashioned for you? Sorry! You deserve, and should expect more from him; if you give him something as precious and valuable as a child.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (31 May 2020):
 OP, are you financially able and ready to be a single mother?
Do you WANT to be one?
Smearing his sperm all over the inside of you is like a dog pissing his territory. And it MIGHT be that he wants you pregnant. Some guys are very fixated on their sperm that is why there is a HUGE market for porn with women "covered" in it. Which again can be a "territorial" thing or a "dominance" thing. Or simply a slight fetish.
You write: "I know he would love a baby" - is that really true? If so why hasn't he proposed to you? I mean if he really want to be a father, why not be a husband first? Yes, I know that sounds old fashioned but... a child NEED both his/her parents. Someone who takes being a husband serious is more likely to take parenthood serious.
Secondly, so what that HE would like a baby? Are YOU in a place in your life where YOU want one? And DO you want one with this guy? Is he stable? Do you two live together? Or just date? Do you both work? How is his family life? Yours? Will you both have a shared support-net for when/if you have a child?
|You have a lot of WAY more important questions to consider, than this, to be frank.
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reader, kenny +, writes (31 May 2020):
 He had already ejaculated inside you, so once this has happened rubbing around it, or pushing it in further would not make any difference at all.
I assume that you are on some form of contraception?.
I think that maybe he was just trying to pleasure you some more. You said you found it nice and relaxing, no if he does it again next time, just relax and enjoy it.
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