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writes:my husband has ms and is not interseted in sex at all, we have only been married a couple of years, we were hoping things would change, neither of us wants to be with anyone else. he will shortly be starting chemo and we are both desperate for a baby, how do we go about this ????
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 I know that if I were sick with MS I would not want sex with either, if you both want a baby perhaps you can adopt or go to a sperm bank like jodieleigh suggested.
right now I think you need to focus on your husband's illness and not about having a baby. Get your priorities straight, its not his fault he isn't interested in sex, its not personal towards you, chemo is tough and I don't know any chemo patient who was interested in sex. Its a rough thing to go through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Wow, there is just not enough info, yet there is some very sad facts.
I mean, your husband has ms, im not surprised he has no sex drive.
And why is he getting chemo,for cancer?
And are you sure you want a baby with a sick man, who needs a lots of support???
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Gosh, this man is starting Chemotherapy, and you're worried he's not interested in sex, I'm sorry, but you seem MORE concerned about having a baby, and your husbands lack of enthusiasm for sex, and NOT the fact your husband is quite ill.
You are still reasonably young (30-35) so why not concentrate on your husbands well-being, helping him through what must be a distressing time for him, and when and IF he's come through this, then concentrate on getting back to normal sexually.
Surely your husband is the most important aspect in your life, and not his ability to provide babies. Which as much as you desire to be a Mother, your husband must be your first priority, especially now.
I feel for your husband, as your question is aimed towards YOUR needs for a baby, and not his illness - YES, you both want children, all couples who love each other do, but in this situation, your husband will be low physically and emotionally, and to have this added stress of not being able to indulge in sex as he used to, knowing how you feel, must be awful for him.
How do you go about this....allow him to get through this period in his life with love and support, without pressure and everything else will follow.
I really hope he makes a good recovery, I wish you both the very best.
Jilly
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reader, jodieleigh +, writes (6 September 2010):
 sperm bank or adoption but im sure if you really wanted a baby he would try maybe when he's a little bit better?
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