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writes:well i met this guy on the internet and we talked for while. but the problem is, hes 20 and im 15. he thinks im 16. i invited him over and my mom thinks he goes to my school and is 17. we kissed and stuff and i let him finger me, and then he wont home after a while. the next day i asked him what was going to happen between me and him and he told me he didnt want a relationship. not just with me but not with anyone. i told my friend about it and she says hes using me. but come to find out, hes a virgin. and to this day he still doesnt want a relationship but i obviously do. i just dont know what to cuz i dont know if its gonna go anywhere or not. what do i do.
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reader, MeBeTonya +, writes (8 September 2009):
 The simple fact of knowing that a 20 year old man would mess with a 16 year old female disturbs the hell out of me. And you telling him that you're 16 when in fact are 15 makes it NO better. For one, can he not find a woman of age? Who initiated this act and who allowed it to only go as far as it did? Did you push him away as he tried to initiate more? Regardless, the man is 20...well, if we want to hardly call him a man.. he's 20.. and what the hell are you doing worrying about sexual congressions at your age?? Books child.. education.. does that mean something?!? I can only now worry about the both of you.. My apologies but the truth only hurts when it should...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): There's a saying that goes, "love is blind", and it seems to be the case here. You are involved, and you have feelings for him, so its difficult to see anything other than what you want to see, but people on the outside, such as your friend, and adults on this website, who some will have been in similar situations, can see things from other perspectives. Ok, so he didn't use you for sex, but he did give you foreplay and then decided to do a runner, which suggests to me that it was enough to satisfy his sick little mind. The fact is, he knew because of the potential legal consequences, that he couldn't have a legitimate relationship with you. So you tell me what his reasons were for going out with you???
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni never asked the question if he is using me i asked WHAT DO I DO. i never effin asked ANYONE if he was using me cuz i know hes not. tell me, what would he be using me for? i havent done anything to him and he hasnt asked me one for sex, hes a effin virgin for crying out loud, the only reason it says is he using me is becuase thats the question they put, i know for a freakin fact hes not. so fck off.
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reader, meganutts +, writes (6 September 2009):
 First off, this is where the line between what's consensual and what's not gets blurred between a minor and an adult. You are a minor, he is and adult, he can go to jail for just fingering you if rape is called, but u consented, yet ur still a minor and he may go away to prison anyway if its found out. You can(if you are truelly in love with him, which I don't think you are) lose your love to such a case that was the faults of both of you. Mainly him because he knows its rape, in the eyes of america, its rape and he doesn't want a relationship with you because he knows that. If he could get away with it, he would be with you. See he's stupid, but he's not that stupid. Oh and yea I'm more than sure he's just using you love. Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): People come and go in our lives all the time, and this is just a case of it. Besides your only 15, so i don't think you need a 20 year old boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): No, it's not going anywhere. Men show their interest openly if it exists. Funny that he didn't want to sleep with you. Give it a wide berth. And besides, people lie on the internet all the time about themselves. He may not have told you the truth, particularly about his age.
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