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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): It so happens that I have fallen in love with my friend. She is 36 and I am 28 and we are getting married this week, we don't see age as a difference.
All that matters is the you love each other and have a good understanding. So I don't really see any issue here.
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (20 September 2010):
There is an 8-9 year age gap between me and my guy (I am the older one) and although I don't really see a problem I always wonder if he will want a younger model in years to come!
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (20 September 2010):
Age difference itself is not an issue. It's the possible consequences that might matter.
The key is the ability to understand each other. If you two are open-minded and understand the possible differences and can talk about it/deal with it, then the age difference doesn't matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): The only answer to this question is "No". Absolutely nothing wrong. Only thing is you'll have to worry about is working on certain differences like what will interest your age group may not necessary interest her and visa versa. It's all about a little compremising. Which unselfish relationship does not have a bit of give and take. Besides the age difference between Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore is 15 years and they've made it work.
From the "other anon".
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): No it's neither wrong nor bad.
But age difference does matter a lot, to deny that there are difficulties related to the age gap would be wrong.
It depends where people are in their lives, what they want from a relationship, is a long term relationship practical or doable.
Age gap relationship take a lot more work than non-age gap ones, both people have to adapt to certain aspects of the other persons age. A woman of 32 is likely to want to settle down soon get married and start a family, whereas a man of 23 is still in the prime of his youth and may not want those things.
Age gap relationships are not wrong nor are they bad but I find very often through my own experience and friends I know that have had them, that they're very often impractical and unworkable in the long run. The different stages of life that the two people are at are exceptionally hard to overcome in the long run. Unless of course you're a 23 year old that has a settled career and want to start a family soon. Or she's a 32 year old that doesn't want any of those things any time soon.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (20 September 2010):
 Age difference is no problem. If you both love each other and have a strong relationship then it should not be an issue.
A 9 year difference really is not that bad at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): No, I don't think it is wrong or bad at all. If you love each other and are happy, that is what matters. There might be some issues regarding the age difference, which would need to be addressed, but on the whole the age difference itself is not a problem.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 meh, not really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): So funny that you ask that question..I'm a 32 year old woman who cares a lot for a 23 year old man..age makes no difference. its the connection that you guys have. You can't help who you fall in love with. when you love someone and they love you back it's the best feeling in the world. There is nothing wrong about your age difference ..you are both adults
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