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writes:So I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks now, and we've been on several dates.Everything has worked out well up until now.But last night, she told me that her ex-boyfriend is acting like he wants to get back with her.The breakup hurt her and she felt like trash for months.Now I come along, and she claims to feel ready to move on, so we gave dating a try.Like I said, everything was great.But now she feels confused about her ex, because she still has feelings for him, which is understandable.But I have feelings for her too, and all biases aside, I know that she deserves better. She realizes that too, but can't help her previous feelings for him.Now I need a way to help her realize that (not necessarily me) anyone but him is a better choice.I'm afraid to act on my feelings knowing that he has the ability to snatch her heart back in the blink of an eye, so I need to find out what my best option is.Please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): It is your opinion that anyone is better than her ex,only because you want her. You have heard her side of things,not his or anyone else. If she wants to go back,she will. You may be better backing off a bit and not putting your all into this for your own protection.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 I understand that you want to her to realize that anyone is better than him, but that's something that you aren't going to be able to do... she has to figure that out for herself unfortunately.
No amount of logical talk from you is going to help, regardless of whether you try to convince her that anyone else is better than you- she still knows you have a conflicting interest.
Her best friend (who can remind her of all the negative things about her ex) may be able to knock some sense into her tho.
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