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writes:How many times per week should you see your boyfriend/girlfriend when you're in a committed relationship?I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. We spend weekends together and see each other once in the middle of the week...and sometimes an occassional Friday. I use the other days to do my own thing and so does he. He calls me during the days we don't see each other but we'll also have a day during the week when we make no contact at all. This all suits us fine but a friend of mine was saying that it's not normal...that we should spend more time together. We're both busy with work and often work late. Our relationship is great, we're going on holiday soon and he's totally committed to me. Should I just ignore the suggestions of my friend or what?
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Im the same, i only spend four days a week with my boyfriend because i have college work to be doing and so does he. And as others have said, this is your relationship people work differently. Tell her that this is your relationship and that this is working for you so she should be happy for you.
Hope everything turns out how you want it too :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): thanks for the answers guys...it helps to get others' opinions :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): It's not your friends relationship, it's yours. Whatever works for you and your boyfriend is the right amount of time.
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reader, RyanS +, writes (20 May 2010):
 I think you are doing great already -- that's enough contact/time between hard working couples, and I guess it should also build some anticipation of the time spent together. There's nothing called "normal" or "standard" in these things. Don't ask your friend, ask your bf if he is happy. That's the only input to care for.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Ignore her. The amount of time that you spend together works well for you,works well for him and works well for your relationship, so if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
A relationship should not take over your life completely. It's healthy to be able devoting time also to family,friends ,hobbies, a little "me time". Many people don't do that,particularly in the beginning of the relationship, only to find themselves in a few months sort of burned out, in closeness overdose,and with the vague impression that something is missing from their life.
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