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writes: Years ago I dated a woman for a little while and then we broke up. We were only together for a few months. We did not stay in contact. I had a job working for a small company for ten years. In all that time I have seen a lot of people come and go. I was there longer than everyone else and then I was fired. I came in to work every day and I did my job. I missed three days in all the time I worked there. Heres why I got fired. The woman who I dated married my former boss last year. He had mentioned her but she has been going by a shortened version of her name since I knew knew her. I was not invited to the wedding and I never even saw her at work until finally she came into the shop one day and saw me and said hello. My boss said to her "how do you know this guy"(exact words) and she just said matter of fact that we dated for a little while. A week later I was fired. I called his wife, my ex girlfriend and I finally got it out of her which is that he was jealous of me because I had sex with her and it made him angry just to see me everyday. I had seen him be petty before but this is over the line. The official reason was poor job performance. There isn't any way I'm going to work for again now anyway. Well it all comes down to my question so hear it is. What am I supposed to put down on a job application where it asks "reason for leaving"? I don't want to sit around and draw unemployment because I think long gaps without working looks bad to employers. Any response would be welcome. I sure do hope the economy is getting better like they say. One thing that really makes me mad is that I never told anyone at work that I slept with her. The only one that I told was my wife because I thought it was the right thing to do. We have been together for a long time. She didn't even get angry. I did confront my former employer and it just degenerated into a screaming match. He threatened to call the cops if I didn't leave. I really want to kick his ass. Sorry for the rant. I am really really angry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): I appreciate all the responses and all but I really don't want to sue. I don't want to embarrass my wife and I don't want to advertise to the world that I slept with his wife. I think sex is a very private thing. I calmed down a bit now but really what am I going to do for work? I don't think a lot of companies want someone my age. I'll just see what I can find. I guess in a way I don't have to get revenge on him. I will eventually find another job but he will always know that I had sex with his wife. Honestly though she's a good lady. We didn't make it but she deserves a lot better. I hope that she does find someone else that loves her and treats her the way she deserves.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 I am very sorry about your latest development. Try to think more positive .
Everything happens for a reason and I hope you will find a better paying job soon. It could be a blessings in disguise as pinktopaz said.
Wishing you all the best.
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reader, joyDavids  +, writes (20 May 2010):
just forget about the company sometimes we accept sufferings as a stepping stone, try to invest on a small business. I also had the same problem but different. My boss got me so drunk which i never did before. and slept with me, i considered it a rape but when i took the case to the officials i was fired and deported back to my country so dont worry life is just unfair sometimes
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 sue his ass, that is unreasonable and probably illegal. get some money out of the asshole, and do not go round to threaten him or beat his up as it wont look good in court which is where you should take this.
talk to a lawyer now
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 May 2010):
Get a lawyer and sue him. Seriously.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (20 May 2010):
Wow, I would get a lawyer if I were you! Depending on what state you live in, you can definitely have a case against the company.
If it's not something you really want to deal with (which I think you should just you piss him off and hopefully he can lose his job) don't worry about what new prospects would think of as far as you being unemployed. You have a long employment history with them and just say that you were laid off. I was laid off for 8-mos and finally found a full time job. It did require me to move, but I did find one. Especially with the way the economy is today, most employers know that people are getting laid off, so it's really not a big deal; however, it is pretty tough to get a job. Definitely a lot of selling yourself and even going into new positions (or lower) positions that you've held previously.
For all you know it's a blessing in disguise. Maybe you'll get better pay and not work with a lame ass for a boss.
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