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30-35,
*ara__m
writes:ok I asked this ? before I registered then decided to make a s/n si I'm asking again.... I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we DO NOT use condoms.. tonight I was looking in his wallet for a business card and I saw a condom stuck in one of the little compartments of the wallet.. it doesn't look like its been there very long so I donty kno if that's an indication that he just PUT it there recently or REPLACED it recently... he goes out to clubs a lot and always without me... all of his friends cheat on their girlfriends/wives including his uncle , who he is with everyday because they work together and he goes out to clubs with him..... should I trust him or do I have a right to be suspicious ...... I have asked him before if he's messed around and he says no... should I believe him??
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reader, sara__m +, writes (21 May 2010):
sara__m is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think it makes it worse what he would take one of our personal condoms that we keep in our bedroom (even tho we don't use them) and use it to mess around on me.. IF he has &/or has intentions to.. and I don't see why he would have ever needed to put it there in the 1st place because we have never used condoms we got those from the health dept just to make his family think we did use them... so he never had a need for a condom after we started dating so he has no reason to have one in his wallet. but he does
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (21 May 2010):
Well if the condom is from when you first started dated, it could be that he simply didn't throw it away. It is still a bit suspicious, but, it's not quite the same as him buying condoms that you don't know about.
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reader, sara__m +, writes (20 May 2010):
sara__m is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm sure he hasn't forgot its there because its one of the condoms we bought when we first started dating & thank u everyone for ur advise. I guess I'm going to have to ask him but I kno he'll never tell me
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): You have to decide if you trust him or not. Could it be that he just forgot it was there.
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reader, RyanS +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Sara, your bf has to clarify why he keeps a condom in his wallet when you don't use it. Your question is quite strong, and you need a convincing answer from him, otherwise its not fair towards you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 He believes in the boy-scouts motto : Always be prepared.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (20 May 2010):
I agree. He might not have actually cheated, but the condom is there because he knows it's a possibility that he'll be having sex with someone. I can only speak from experience but if I was in a relationship and didn't intend on cheating, i wouldn't be carrying a condom around with me when I went out to clubs. There is no other reason whatsoever I can think of why he would need to have a condom in his wallet.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Unless it's been there for 2+ years, it has no reason to be there other than for him to use it for sex with someone else. He may not have cheated yet, but he's clearly mentally prepared to.
In my opinion you have every right to be highly suspicious.
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