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writes: My friend has recently been texting this boy all the time and they have had a good texting relationship but when she asks if she can meet him, he says that "he does not want to rush into things". They have been texting for six months now and he has not even called her. If she does he does not even speak to her. He only texts her. She is sixteen and he said that he is eighteen but I don't believe any of it, and I am very concerned about her. Please Help.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (6 February 2006):
 Your friend will hopefully soon realise that this is going nowhere and it is just some lads idea of fun or maybe the lad is shy.
I would be worried if he wanted to meet with her as there is of course a danger with meeting someone that you have had a relationship with that is not face to face, she needs to stop this really as it is costing her money and it is not going anywhere, she needs to stop wasting her time on this bloke, is she sure it is a bloke, and how did she start this if she has never met him.
My advice is to tell her to stop!!
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reader, beenthere +, writes (6 February 2006):
this guy can't be that interested can he? 6 months of text only and he doesn't want to rush things? sounds like an excuse to me. tell your friend to forget about him and meet someone real!
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reader, mkemmet +, writes (6 February 2006):
Absolutely - something is not right. This guy does not sound like a typical 18-yr-old. Think about it - we all know what 18 year olds think about - would an 18 year old not want to meet a girl he's obviously interested in? Or even talking to her on the phone? The texting method is the most anonymous way to go about continuing this "relationship," and that right there is a HUGE red flag. Another thing to be concerned about is whether this guy knows where your friend lives. Even if she hasn't given him her address, anyone can get that information using a phone number or clues that naturally come up in conversation. So now your 16-yr-old friend has some anonymous guy out there that presumably knows all about her but won't show his face. She might be angry at you, but you need to tell someone that you trust about this. The last thing you want is to be looking back at these warning signs after something has happened. (Believe me, as this has happened to me. I wish I would have opened my mouth when my gut told me to.) And your friend will realize - at least eventually - that you truly showed how much you care about her by intervening. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2006): heya i understand what your going throgh ive been through it all loadz lol um i think its great ur so concerned about ur friend and it is very worrying i know but u have 2 options leave her learn from her own mistaked she might get annoyed for u in her buisness i dont mean to sound nasty really but wen it happened to me i told my friend an she didnt want to hear it cause wen u really like sum1 u tend to not listen to others or convince her that if he liked her so much in the last 6 months she would have atleast of had a phone call it could be a 40 year old perv for all u kno so... good luck xx
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (6 February 2006):
 I reckon this guy is married, old, and fooling with her.
It it so obvious there is a lot that is not kosher with the whole scenario.
Unfortunately, young girls can be so gullible in these situations.
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