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writes:Just wondering if anyone can shed some light on this situation. I was with my boyfriend for 2 years, and we mutually decided it was time to part ways, due to lifestyle differences. I am still in school and work part time, and he is done school and working full time, but really likes to live it up on weekends. It's been 8 months, and neither of us can get over each other. Can we meet in the middle and make things work? P.s. he is 25, I am 21. Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, golddigger99  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 You're kind of a little vague by simply saying "he likes to party it up on the weekends." What does this mean? Does he drink to the point of unconciousness or does he flirt his way through dance clubs? Is he the type of guy who loves to throw home parties or what exactly?
The relationship can work if both of you are willing to give up something for the other, but if you were not willing to get it down 8 years ago, I see little chance of this happening now. I'm beginning to see that some men are frat boys and that they're not always willing to grow up.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 January 2011):
You seem to have two totally different outlooks on life, I'm afraid. When you were together, it didn't seem like you were able to meet in the middle. Here, eight months later, I doubt anything will have changed. He'll still want to live it up, and you'll still be in school and working part time. If you couldn't compromise then, I really doubt you will now.
If you want to try, then speak to him about it and see what he says. But you both need to be willing to change, and to be honest if you couldn't do it when it mattered, I don't see it happening now. It's not like either of you have even really gone out of your way to change during these 8 months to win the other back. I don't know. I don't see it working out to be honest.
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