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writes:Me and my boyfriend been together for almost a year Now. I love him so much. He means the world to me. But we constantly argue, he says horrible things to me when we do. He apologizes but does it again. This the first time in my life I put up with this and I know i deserve better than this but it's just really hard to let go. I gave him way many chances already. If I knew this was going to be like this in the beginning I would have not let myself in or fell this deep. In the first few months it was amazing I treasure every moment but that was it. I cry constantly feel so weak and to me it's not right I gotta be strong. And just a month ago I found out he was texting this girl. I knew her, we hung out one time the four us and she knows we're together. I tried to tell him that I know but he keeps on denying it, he said no but why text I know this bcuz I checked our messages in our acc the problem is I don't know what they're texting, I can only see the number every time they text so dont have really that much proof.I can't tell I was snooping, he can have that and I feel like it's wrong Oh before I forget he's the one who told me not to text any guy and to have found out he is with this girl crushed me. I don't know what to do. I really want to know the truth please help me.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 CaringGuy has said it all. Yes there probably is more to him texting her than you know about. The fact hes ready to deny it when youve seen the evidence yourself, proves hes a liar. We also know hes a verbal bully. And hes controlling. What hes done is to pull apart your self confidence and leave you feeling depressed and vunerable. Since thats happened youve been looking to him to build you back up again. But he wont. For him, its better that youve lost your confidence, it makes you a doormat for him to wipe his feet on. Its how he wants and likes things. Stay with him and you will always feel the way you do now. Its not love its dependancy you are feeling, bless you. As you sound a little depressed, which is understandable, go and have a chat with your doctor. Also start talking to your friends and family about how unhappy you are. With their support you will find it easier to make a move away from him, which is what you need to do. Hugs x
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (2 February 2010):
 Let him go, you deserve better. There is only one reason he would deny texting her when he is, and you know it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2010):
You know the truth, but you're sat there kidding yourself. You know he's texted her, and he's denying it. That's says it all. He's controlling you by telling you not to text other guys, and emotionally abusing you the rest of the time. You have given him to many chances. You say it's hard to let go of him. Well just stop and think. what happens in ten years time when you want kids and he dumps you? What happens if you have children and he deserts you. What happens if by the time you're 40 you're still with him, and you look back and realize you've wasted your life. It's all happened to other women too. You need to be brave. You don't feel strong because he has abused you enough to make you think you need him. You don't need him at all. You belong to YOU. Get rid of him, focus on your life, do your own hobbies, do your own career, go and get help for your low self esteem. But for God's sake don't sit there wasting your life with a guy who doesn't care. You can either be nothing to him, or something to another guy. Be brave and make the right choice.
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