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writes:Okay lets say you love your teacher and then you find out he loves you back....cant there be someway for the two to be together with out any problems?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): hey im the orignal person that posted this question....thanks for the replies and sorry i dont mean to sound rude but can i get a more reasonable answer than just "um,no" because i want to hear an appropiate answer,i know this isnt an appropiate question to begin with but hey i have feelings what can i do,im not gonna say anything on his behalf but as for me i know my feelings and i couldnt care less if its "wrong" or nasty just as long as hes safe happy and me as well,i couldnt care less what you think....
anyways....but as for all rest of my aunts thanks for the advice.
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reader, XxKrystalxX  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 If you are over the age of consent for where you live and he is not your teacher at the time then I think it is legal. But no matter whether it's legal or not there will always be people to judge you but if you both love each other hopefully this wont matter. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Um, no.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (5 April 2008):
 if you're 18 and he is not your teacher anymore then there's nothing wrong with it because he is not a figure of authority to you anymore. But be prepared for a lot of gossip and whispering and his reputation will be tarred because people like to talk and will undoubtedly speculate that the relationship started when you met in school.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 April 2008):
 As long as you do not have a sexual relationship or getting
pregnant ,then it is within the boundaries of the law.
It is not a crime to love each other .
It may be inappropriate that is all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Once you are 18 and out of his hair and school. You could shag him all you want.
1) Because you are a legal adult and you are allowed by law to shag whoever you wish above the age of consent (providing they aren't you teacher in College or something).
2) Because you no longer attend the school, he no longer has the student/teacher responsibility to abide by and so can act on his feelings without a second glance.
You will most likely get a few stares and some whispers from those around you, but legally there is nothing anyone can do about you and him.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): hey im the one that origanally posted this question,i just wanted to say thanks for all your answers guys but could it still be viewed wrong even if im 18 and graduated from high school??
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): It is never appropriate for a student and a teacher to have an emotional relationship, such as in dating.
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reader, Cindy303 +, writes (5 April 2008):
 Looking at your age, not even 18 yet I dont see that anything can or should happen with your teacher. You should not be even thinking about getting involved in such a situation. He will end up with no job once this is all over. I would stay clear of this.
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reader, rcn +, writes (5 April 2008):
 Lets see 16-17 years old, I don't think so. Did your teacher say he loved you back? In some cases adult students aren't allowed to date their teachers. Reason being, "professional code of ethics". They have a student/teacher responsiability. If a teacher was dating a student, the first thing the students (who aren't getting the best grades) are going to do is run to the school board stating the teacher is favoring that student over them and that they don't have equal opportunity as the other student to learn.
I just finished school. At the school I went too, it said right in the handbook, teachers will loose their jobs if they have relationships with students. Now at your age, they not only lose their job, but their license to teach at that school or any other school, and possiably jail time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Apparently, just about the only thing your teacher can do is well, teach you. However you are over the age of 16 so I am not totally sure.Obviously a relationship with your teacher, espeically when he or she is still teaching you is going to cause a certain amount of problems, whether it's career or your parents. Even if it's not illegal - which I recommend you looking up - your teacher wouldn't be seen very highly.The problem with secrets is some of the time they are found out. It really depends on how far you two are willing to go for each other.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (5 April 2008):
 No. not really. Not until you leave school.
And even then if the school suspects something went on between you two during school years, he could lose his job.
People will always look down on you for it, even though they shouldn't really but they will.
It's impossible i think. Unless you don't care what people think and his job is safe. that's about as problem-less as it gets.
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