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writes:After 3 years and 7 months my fiancee broke up with me. Honestly I have never been so miserable. We fought a lot but i know i can change, and I really want her back. Is there any hope for us to renew our relationship? If there is how could I do it?
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reader, Dizme +, writes (5 November 2010):
I would have to agree with Aunt Honesty on the anger management. If she is texting you then there is hope. Tell her how you feel. Trust me it really sucks losing someone that you really care deeply about. I seem to be an expert on that one! Anger issues can be a deal breaker for girls, especially if it has been discussed and not corrected. Ange management classes are really good, it has helped alot of people I know. The main thing is that you do work on it and you show her you are willing to.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Well have you concidered going to anger management classes? This may be the only option here for you to get the help you need. Then you can tell her that you are getting the help that you need, she loves you but she doesnt love the person you become when you are angry so if this relationship means a lot to you then i suggest going to get help.
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reader, Trax +, writes (3 November 2010):
Trax is verified as being by the original poster of the question The main reasons we broke up was because of fighting, i have anger problems but for the most part i can keep them under control, when something does get under my skin i do tend to blow things way out of proportion. She had said she thinks that a break up would be the best solution but she doesn't want to truly leave me. She has been texting me since last night (when we broke up) and she still says she loves me. I just don't want to lose her.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (3 November 2010):
Well you said the both of you argued a lot but that you no you can change, but she needs to be willing to work on the relationship as well. It takes work from both sides. Its funny how people say they will change as soon as they lose someone they love, its sad that it takes this to realise something needs to change its the sad reality so many people are faced with.
Ok so if she doesnt want to get back with you nobody can force her, but ask her if she would meet up and talk with you. Tell her that you love her and dont want to lose her and that you are prepared to work 100% on the relationship, tell her that you realise it is only words but if she gives you a chance you will prove to her that you can be a better partner, but you also need to be honest with her and tell her the things that she could do to make the relationship work also, just be open and honest with each other.
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reader, Dizme +, writes (3 November 2010):
Ok first of all. I would seriously look at the reasons for the break up. Did you call it off or did the other party. If it was you, what were your reasons and have your feelings about those reasons truly changed. If it was not you then again what were the reasons that you were given. Basically your question does not have enough information to give full advice I feel. Some relationship deal breakers are really major such as abuse, infidelity, etc. In a sittuation like those I would not recommend going back. In a sittuation where the break up was for petty issues and counselling or understanding and working as a partner on things would help then there is a chance it is worth it. I would give more advice on this but your question is a little ambiguous and some detail would help.
Good Luck
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