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writes:I'm 15, and I think I have a crush on one of my teachers. (he's around late-30s/early-40s). I wouldn't be interested in having a sexual relationship, but how reasonable do you think it would be? I know it's not very normal, and I'm not crazy enough to expect anything to actually happen, but I was just wondering if there would be any chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): It is normal to have a crush on your teacher but there is no chance that you could be together,don't wonder about it too much and try to focus on other stuff.
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I think there's about ZERO point ZERO chance for you to have a legal, healthy relationship with this or any teacher you may ever have, sweetie. I can say this because I know for fact that there are countless posts on this site asking your very same question. Also, nowhere have I seen a post stating " It all started back when I was 15 and I had a crush on my 30-something teacher...and wow, we have had the greatest relationship on planet earth" It just doesn't happen.
Crushes like your's are a dime a dozen, sweetie, just let it pass and don't act upon it, soon you'll wonder what on earth you were crushing on.....let you teacher do his job. It's what he gets paid to do, having relationships beyond the scope of his job description is NOT. NO exceptions.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (7 June 2010):
 nope, no chance.
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reader, heartbroken . x +, writes (7 June 2010):
Sweetie! No i wouldnt. Because 1: If your mum and dad found out (Which they will) They WILL go the police. And he could lose his job and tbh if hes a good teacher he should still be able to teach. and 2: if he does lose his job i dont think you will be able to have the guilt of thinking a normal guy lost his job. xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 June 2010):
No chance. Apart from anything else, it would be illegal. Enjoy your crush, but accept that it can't go further.
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reader, Blod +, writes (7 June 2010):
 No, there is no chance at all.
As your teacher, it would be illegal and the end of his career if he approached you. Secondly, relationships with an age gap of 20-30 years rarely succeed. This is especially true when one of you is just a child. Due to the nature of our society, people would see a relationship like this quite sick and wrong to be blunt. It would be a very weird relationship, let alone unusual. The relationship would not be accepted.
As well as all this, the chances of him feeling the same about you are extremely unlikely. At his age, he's settled. He wouldn't sacrifice everything because a teenage girl has a crush on him.
Crushes on teachers are reasonably common but nothing comes of 99.9% of them. This crush will pass with time. But the sooner you get this idea out of your head, the better.
Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 June 2010):
 Nope not a snowball's chance. Relax it will pass.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (7 June 2010):
 I'm sure you already know the answer to this one - I'm afraid it is no, there is no chance at all.
The main thing here is your age - you are far too young for him and if he went anywhere near you he would lose his job and be put on the sex offenders register for being a pedophile. Do you really want to do that to him? His family would disown him, he would lose his job, he would probably lose his house & car because he could no longer afford them without a job.....his whole life would fall apart just because a 15 year old girl has a crush on him.
I am assuming he is married too? And does he have kids? Have you even considered his family and how much hurt it would cause them?
Having a crush on your teacher is normal, you can see from the hundreds of questions on this site that it happens all the time. But to want it to go further is very very wrong so dont let yourself get carried away with thinking silly things like having a relationship with him. It wont ever happen so dont even consider it!
Put this idea to the back of your head - he is not interested in you and all you have is a little crush, so leave it be.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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