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30-35,
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writes:I've been dating this guy for about 2 years and I really love him and we know we're both ready to move onto the next step of our relationship, we both know about protection and all that but is there a right way to have sex? or is it bad to plan out sex (we're both virgins). I've given him blowjobs and he's fingered me and there have been times where it's gotten so hot.... ughh! Should we wait for that to happen? instead of just rushing into it
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (17 November 2008):
 I would TOTALLY wait. I think when people "plan" to lose their virginity, that seems like it makes it that much more awkward and weird. Like, you don't plan when your first kiss is with a fella, "well, it's 3:45 and according to the schedule we should be having our first kiss now" - MAJOR WEIRDNESS.
I think it should happen when you both are feeling particularly passionate and you're totally focused on each other and it's getting hotter and hotter and you know that it's the right time. And you WILL know.
There's no need to rush. You get to have sex for the rest of your life... and once you start having it, there's no going back to not having it and just enjoying endless foreplay (and that, in ways, is almost more fun. As 'fishdish' says, it builds anticipation!).
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reader, fishdish +, writes (17 November 2008):
 yea I would take it slow a nd just see where things lead naturally..it is much better to get all turned on for things to come (heh no pun intended) versus dedicating a night starting off with sex, because you could be way too tight and dry to j ust go to that first, plus it's nice to build up anticipation and show your love for one another.
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