A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:A girl i was seeing told me she was pregnant with my child and after stating her reasons she decided to terminate it as she said he wasnt mature enough or financially ready to bring up a child and also since alot of stuff had gone on between us she didnt think it was fair to bring a child into itShe had an abortion booked but she now claims that on the day she had to have an ultrasound and it was discovered there was no heartbeat and she would miscarry, she was given the option to naturally miscarry or abort which she decided to naturally miscarry i also seen the receipt from the clinic and on it it stated she had a consultation and an ultrasound but no mention of a terminationIs she telling me the truth bare in mind she has never once asked me for money towards it and when offered it she refused!But i feel maybe she had the termination and just told me she miscarried because i wanted to keep it where as she didnt and do private abortion clinics even issue receiptsi must add she said on the day she went to the abortion clinic they could not find a heartbeat
View related questions:
abortion, money Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 September 2012):
 Yes, of course private medical facilities HAVE to issue receipts for their services- whether they are abortions or pulled teeth. But, anyway, why should she have lied to you ? She had already opted for a termination and booked her appointment, so she had already made up her mind regardless of your opinion. You already knew her decision, and she already knew you did not not agree but was set to terminate her pregnancy anyway. What would have been the point of inventing such a complicated tale ?
A
reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): It is actually quite common for women to miscarry a pregnancy. Women get pregnant and not even know it because within the next few weeks the zygote is not attached and is lost with her period.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): Hi
I cant say what the truth is, but from personal experience. I went for my scheduled scan (a few years ago) and there was no heartbeat from baby.They had me in a hospital bed immediately and the next morning did another scan then, took me to theatre for a D&C. Thats the normal procedure.
Its emotional and devastating.
I dont know why anyone would lie but your girlfriend has gone through 'something' and if she did lose a baby, will need support at some point,from you.Dont question her just listen.
...............................
A
female
reader, too solid for you  +, writes (6 September 2012):
I will tell you honestly because I just miscarried a few wks ago myself and it still hurts me to know that I lost my daughter; yes, I was that far along. They're not just going to let you naturally miscarry if there was no heartbeat, they would have immediately sent her to the hospital.
I do see holes in the story, I honestly don't think that she was ever pregnant; or maybe she was.Did u see the proof of pregnancy? There are plenty of ways to get a fake receipt look at the technology we have now.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 September 2012):
 Unless she is a total attention whore/drama llama I can't see why she would tell you about the pregnancy/miscarriage/abortion, unless it actually happened.
All of them are quite emotional to go though and since YOU were part of the pregnancy maybe she wanted someone to listen to her and share in the loss, even IF she didn't want to carry the baby it is STILL a loss.
I think she did the right thing in telling you. And I think she had to do what's right for her.
...............................
A
female
reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (6 September 2012):
 I am not sure, but I am not sure it matters. When women are in this situation, they will do what they feel is best for themselves at the time. No disrespect, but this is why people preach about using protection...because when these things happen people wish they would have done more to keep themselves from having to decide such things and from experiencing such emotional turmoil. Whether she miscarried or had an aborition, you are out of the picture, so to ease your mind...I don't think it matters exactly what happened.
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 September 2012):
 do you know what a miscarriage is sometimes called?
SPONTANEOUS abortion.....
same result different method... one man made one nature made...
anyone legally in business for money issues receipts
I'm sorry you wanted her to keep a child and she refused but I side with her on this... it's her body and it's her life that would change.... being a single mom even with an involved dad is lousy and you guys were not a solid couple.
Her reasons were valid and I applaud her maturity
that being said.. why do you think she would lie about having the termination after she already told you she was going to do it and refused to take the money from you?
what would her reasoning be? to win you back because you wanted to keep it and she did not so by her "naturally" losing the baby she's not the bad guy here and she will work it out with you?
...............................
A
male
reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (5 September 2012):
I can’t confirm whether private abortion clinics do issue receipts or not but I don’t see any reason why they wouldn’t. And where would she then get a faked one from? Furthermore if she knew you wanted to keep the baby what possible reason would there be to forge a receipt? If she was going to lie to you she would have skipped out the fact that she went to an abortion clinic altogether and just told you that she miscarried. As for the receipt, that receipt would be for the purchase of the service, it wouldn’t contain information on the findings of any tests they carried out because that information isn’t relevant for a record of a purchase, which is all a receipt is. And if there is no mention of a termination, that’s probably because she never had one! As the previous poster said, why would you doubt her? It’s a pretty terrible thing to lie about. If we assume that she was prepared to tell such awful lies, if she were lying because of your opposition to the abortion it would have made a lot more sense to pretend that she didn’t even have to visit the clinic because she miscarried. According to her actual version of events, we must assume that she was still prepared to go ahead with the termination but events took an unexpected turn when test revealed no heartbeat. In short, therefore, there is no possible motive for making this story up.
I wish you all the very best.
...............................
A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (5 September 2012):
 Is there a reason you don't trust her?
...............................
|
