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writes:My girlfriend and I have (as far as I know) an exclusive, long-term, "committed" relationship. I would, of course, be concerned if my girlfriend kept nude photos of other men on her computer. That's not quite the situation here. In this case she has nude photos of herself taken by other men (from previous relationships). Should I be concerned about that? Does that indicate less than total commitment to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 I think that must be like a big smack in the eye to you. Has the woman no sense of sensitivity?
I'm sorry, but after that revelation I would say she has scant regard for your feelings and for your relationship. I'd give her a damn good talking-to, quietly but firmly laying down what you expect her to do.
If that doesn't cut any ice, then I'm afraid I would seriously reconsider my relationship with her.
Good luck.
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reader, DrM +, writes (7 July 2011):
DrM is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMany thanks to those who responded to my question! Your answers seems reasonable.... Except, there's one photo that I want to ask if you'd have the same answer about. It's a photo of her from the waist up, sitting up, with a blissful expression on her face. She says it's one of her favorite photos of herself. The thing is, it was taken by the man while she was riding him. What do you think of her keeping THIS photo, in terms of her relationship with me?
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (7 July 2011):
I'm sure you've nothing to be worried about but she is being highly insensitive - bearing in mind other guys took those pix.
Just explain to her that the thought hurts you just a little, as those pix represent what she looked like through other mens' eyes. Then ask her would it be possible - if she deleted those pix - and allowed YOU to take some sexy replacements?
If she makes a big deal about it, then ask her to at least consider how SHE would feel if the boot was on the other foot.
Good luck.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 I agree with person12345. I don't think she looks at the photos and reminisces over the guy she was with at the time as you might be thinking... They were just photos taken when she was younger and sexier (I assume). I wouldn't be worried.
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reader, jesca86 +, writes (7 July 2011):
 I would say that she just has them to give herself a confidence boost :) nothing to worry about! I doubt she gives the person behind the lens a second thought when she's looking at the pictures, being a female myself, she's probably picking fault in her mind with everything about her appearance....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 July 2011):
 She may just think she looks good in them. This doesn't seem like a red flag to me unless the other guys were in the photos.
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