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writes:Heyya, I’m going to university in September and I was just wondering what the dating experience there was like. I’ve had two girlfriends in high school; one when I was fifteen and another shorter-term relationship last year when I was 17. Hopefully, I’m going to university in September and, like many males I suppose I want to find a girlfriend, ideally within the first year. This isn’t really one of those “help! How do you ask a girl out questions”, I think I’m as adept as I can be at that. But I have heard a load of different accounts of dating in university. A friend of mine who’s just completed his first year goes on about how many relationships start with hookups whilst my brother who left university a year ago reckoned that dating was pretty much the same as it was in high school: asking a girl out to the cinema, for drinks/dinner and then asking her to be your girlfriend after a few dates if they’re successful. Finally one of my university age friends told me that you just make female friends, get to know them then if all goes well and you meet a like minded person, you just end up asking them out.I suppose I’m rather anxious, as I’d like university to be an enjoyable experience that lives up to the aspirations and expectations that I have. If anyone could give any kind of guidance as to what I should expect or the experiences that I may have it’d be really appreciated.RegardsD
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (7 July 2011):
 I agree with Cerberus. It's all about the getting drunk, hooking up and sharing a kebab. Relationships are temporary and short. Sex, sex, sex...that's what most people are after.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): Actually I have to disagree with Cute Angel. I'm a mature student now and this is my second time in college and I can tell you there is nothing more mature about college students your age. Dating in college is far more flaky and temporary.
Some like cute angel just chance upon a relationship but most are looking to express their first bit of independence by partying and going a bit nuts. In my experience college students are far less mature than school pupils in their behaviour because it is their first time living away from their parents, it's the first time they get to do what they want, when they want and for most it's their first time being legally able to drink too. Casual hook ups is the name of the game. Sure there is lots of potential for relationships too.
D it's down to who you are, the kind of girls you like, where and how drunk you are when you meet them and how you approach dating. You're the guy, the choice is yours. If you want to date a girl then it's best to get to know her in college and ask her out. If random hookups is what you want then it's best to approach girls while out drinking and at parties etc. That's not to say relationships can't develop from those but if you've ever hooked up with someone while drunk you know that there's every chance they only did so because they were drunk.
University is brilliant, absolutely nothing to be anxious about, everyone is on the same boat as you and everyone is looking to make friends there. Just make sure to be social, join clubs and societies, go on the nights out and have some fun but get your work done on time too. If you want to date, ask girls out while sober, if you want fool around then do so drunk.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 dating is the same anywhere,in high school or university..its just that the people in college are much more mature and when they get into a relationship its the more serious kinda committed one than the ones you have in high school where u date someone just to make someone jealous and all those petty things lol..dont worry about it to much,just be urself..i am in my third year of university and i started dating in the first year,i never planned it but it just happened and now we hav been together for 3 years..i found it no different we met at the orientation and got talking,exchanged numbers made him run after me for a bit;) lol and viola i have a bf haha..just have fun,uni days are the best years of your life dont be in a rush to get into a relationship,it will happen for u when it has to..all the best!xx
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