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Is my wife hiding a 'dirty' side of herself from me?

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Question - (11 January 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 12 January 2011)
A male United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Hi. I'm 44, my wife is 38. We've been married for 8 years. When we were first dating, she would ask me to masturbate and to climax on her buttocks. This went on for awhile, and then went away. Now, after having two children and going through a long period where "sex" meant her pleasuring me orally followed by mutual masturbation, we've seen a significant increase in our lovemaking. No matter how we start out (me on top, she on top),it always ends with me entering her from behind and her screaming for me to pull out and "cum on my ass" (trying to keep it g-rated, but want to paint an accurate portrait).

My question is, my wife is generally very conservative- doesn't like to watch porn, doesn't enjoy vibrators, dirty talk etc. Yet, she loves when I climax upon her buttocks. What can this possibly stem from? Am I wrong to believe that she's holding back from me, that she's got a "dirty" side that she keeps from me, other than the buttock thing?

Please help!

Thank you.

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A female reader, viccra78 United States +, writes (12 January 2011):

So by her telling you what she likes that makes her a "dirty girl". Really? Just be happy she is telling you what she wants!

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A female reader, LeahVictoria  United Kingdom +, writes (11 January 2011):

Its probably just her thing. My friend is the same and when she starts talking about what she likes to do we just roll our eyes as in oh not again. Shes only done this with two of the people she has slept with (one being her current boyfriend)

You could always ask her just because your so curious by it.

Everyone just enjoys different things. Sex should always be equal in a relationship. Aslong as your enjoying i say go for it!

If it was me though i think i would have asked why do you enjoy this by now!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (11 January 2011):

Honeypie agony auntDoes it really matter? Every single person have one (or more) ways to achieve climax, some have only one ( or so they think). Maybe she knows it will get the BOTH of you off.

Everyone has a little bit of a 'dirty" side, doesn't mean they want to explore it.

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A male reader, Jmtmj Australia +, writes (11 January 2011):

Jmtmj agony auntWhy analyze something that you're in no position to change? It's probably nothing, but even if there was a "dirty" side to her past... trust me when I say that its not worth digging into or over-thinking. It brings nothing but trouble... don't believe me, look around this site for posts about "retroactive jealousy".

Hell, maybe you've said something in the past that makes her think that YOU like "cumming on her ass", or maybe she just really likes doggie?

More importantly, ask yourself... is this a problem? Do you NOT like "cumming on her ass", (lol, reading that back to myself...) Sounds to me like shes discovering her sexuality and letting go more because she's now so comfortable with you in the bedroom...

You're getting more sex... She's enjoying the sex...

Why flip over a rock that doesn't need flipping?

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