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writes:My girlfriend only ever seems to REALLY want sex on the day when it's most uncomfortable for me. I do pretty intense phsiotherapy once a week and afterwards I drive straight to pick my kids up from their schools. By the time I get home I'm really aching. Then my girlfriend comes round later in the evening and she's normally after sex but whenever i try and initiate it at any other time, she's not so keen. Is she trying to tell me something by only trying to get it when she knows i'm likely to say no? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): Yeah I meant physiotherapy, sorry. I can hardly walk, very bad back and legs. Her on top hurts even more. Thanks for the advice though. I might just ask her straight out but I've got a feeling that she just maybe isn't that into me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): I'm not sure what this "phisotherapy" is or it's physical result, but I presume it makes you tired or sore. I think you misspelled the word.Anyway, you are plenty old enough, and assuming your girlfriend is, just say, "Sure baby, but I'm a little sore right now. Why don't you just get on top and ride all you like."It's pretty easy for a man to have sex with the ole "woman-on-top" position. Rather than you having to do all the work of thrusting and everything, let the girl wear herself out riding the rod. Many women prefer this anyway. When you get older, like me, you'll really appreciate it. At my age, I often lose my breath after just a few minutes of so much exertion, and invite my lady to mount me. Sometimes it works just to share the work.But if she declines the offer, then maybe you are on the right track with the idea that she really doesn't want to have sex with you and is possibly getting it somewhere else.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 It might be because she doesn't actually want to have sex with you. I admit, I think I'm sort of the same way. Sometimes I want my man MOST when the last thing on his mind is sex. I don't know, maybe the thrill of the chase? Suddenly, in the split second that he's not all over me - THEN that's when I want to have sex.
Maybe go buy yourselves some sexy massage oil and when you're all achy and she's wanting to jump your bones - hand her the massage oil and get the ball rolling! A long, sensual massage, now that's great foreplay! By the time she's done working out the kinks in your back, you'll be ready for some kinks in the bedroom.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 Perhaps, but I'm not sure it's something you should be worried about. Many times, I've read in this site that people are just not in the mood and it doesn't have anything at all with you. So this can be a gentle and smart way of not making you feel she doesnt' want anything with you.
Or, she doesn't really want to have sex with you.
I think you should analyze the quality of your relationship, et cetera, to figure out whether she could have a reason not to want sex with you. If you do find something, and, even more, if you don't find a reason, tell her how you're feeling and see what happens.
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