| A ,
*ouncy
writes: I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we've recently hit trouble. We don't do anything exciting anymore and he recently told me he sometimes thinks of me more as a friend than his girlfriend. Is this normal or is he letting me down gently??? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Wendyg  +, writes (7 June 2005):
 Sometimes to be able to survive a relationship you do indeed have to be friends first. Perhaps he is meaning that he can count on you as a friend, that in itself is normal, ask him why he feels this way... take iniative to make things more exciting between you, dont just leave it up to him. Do things that you first used to do when you got together, remember when you first fell in love and see if you can rekindle the flame, he may just be feeling that you take each other for granted, do more things together, have a chat and see where he thinks you guys are headed. Unless you ask him you will never know and you could just end up sitting there being unhappy, be positive and ask him how he feels and if he thinks there are any ways in which the two of you can grow together.Take careGood luck
A
reader, irishcurlysue +, writes (6 June 2005):
It sounds to me from what you said that you are both quite unhappy in your relationship. What you need to do is to talk to him about where you stand. Tell him exactly how you're feeling and where you would like things to go. You won't know how he really feels until you talk to him. If it's meant to be it will be.
...............................
A
reader, Your big sis +, writes (6 June 2005):
 Next time he says you are more like a friend ask me if that's a good or bad thing. Four years is a long time with a boyfriend. Try having a heart to heart discussion with him. Leave tempers and name-calling out. If things get too tense, go in seperate rooms until you both calm down. But don't stop the discussion, continue it as soon as the air is clear and begin where you left off. Best of luck with this.
...............................
|
