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writes: Hi im sixteen and am really confused. I always want to txt this guy friend of mine and i always want to fool around with him, but theres been some problems in the past and he wasnt very nice, and i know he'll probably hurt me again. So ive been trying to not talk to him or think about him, but i have a really strong sex drive and i want him really badly. So ive found a way to control my urges and i just mastrabate. Is this wrong? I come from a religious background and they say it is, but its that or i have sex with him. I know this sounds stupid but after i mastrabate i dont have those feelings for him and i dont want to txt him or talk to him. Theres really nothing else that helps. So is this really wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): People need sexual satisfaction just like they need food, air, and water. It's a natural urge, and masturbation is a great way to understand and "own" your own sexuality. You should learn to satisfy yourself sexually because outgowing involuntary dependence on others is an important part of becoming an adult. Don't touch yourself to get over a guy, touch yourself because it's such a great feeling!As far as religion goes... the anti-masturbation thing is just the ramblings of a bunch of icky old men who get freaked out by sex. Do a google search and you'll see that masturbation wasn't addressed in the bible (I'm assuming you're christian) unless you take stuff WAY out of context. It's just a silly guilt trip. It's your body. Touch it if you want to.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (22 August 2007):
Sounds like you have good sexual chemistry and that's all you've got. In the end it wouldn't last even if you tried really hard.
If masturbating is working then fine, just don't become obsessed with him or masturbation. If the religious aspect bothers you, well you could try to stop and probably go crazu in the process. But I don't know of many religions that would be okay with premarital sex and not masturbation...maybe they'd be more likely to judge, but not necessarily say one is more evil.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): OMG! i have 2 reply 2 this! Can i just say i know 100% what you are going through. I am also 16 and had sex with this guy, when I'm with him, I enjoy his company but can't help but wish he was more romantic, after all sex without the full meaning isn't all that romantic! I know he likes me really, but he just treats me far lower than what I deserve! All my friends think I'm crazy, because this is so out of character for me, I can normally easily walk away, but not this time. And, like you, I've taken too masturbation over this lad, to make up for the times we're not together, but in all honesty it just makes the feelings stronger and I want too be with him more, so I suggest you think of someone else, like a previous reviewer suggested! It's such a hard ssituation darling, but I really really do know how you feel!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): Well then keep on masturbating. It sounds like a great technique for you to stay away from him. And NO there is nothing morally wrong about masturbating. In fact it is quite normal. You see God just doesn't want you to do stuff that hurts others. So if masturbating caused nuclear wars or famine then that would be IMMORAL. But it doesn't. Masturbation, on the contrary, hurts nobody and instead causes immense pleasure and releases chemicals in your brain that makes you feel relaxed and loving which in turn may even help you be a better person. God would be PROUD!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (21 August 2007):
It is a very confusing time for you. You body is telling you one thing, but your head and your heart know that he treats you badly. You are a smart young person to have figured that out already, some people would have just become a doormat and gone back for more. There is nothing wrong with masturbating. Try to think about a fantasy crush instead of the not-very-nice-guy. Physical pleasure can bring comfort. Don't listen to any one who tells you that what you are doing is wrong, Your body - your rules.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (21 August 2007):
I agree with Flower. It seems to me like the best way to vent your frustrations without having sex and potentially putting yourself in line for alot of heartache and emotional damage. I actually think that in the situation it's probably the most responsible thing to do.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (21 August 2007):
I agree with Flower. It seems to me like the best way to vent your frustrations without having sex and potentially putting yourself in line for alot of heartache and emotional damage. I actually think that in the situation it's probably the most responsible thing to do.
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reader, kenny +, writes (21 August 2007):
If masturabting is helping you to get over him, and it feels good for you then keep doing it.
Masturbating is nothing to be ashamed of, it is something that most of the population does, even if most don't admit to it.
All the best x
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (21 August 2007):
maybe its a good thing that your ignoring the religion thing...if its making you feel better nobody should argue with that...and you are only allowed your opinion....you should keep doing it if its making you feel better babe
Good Luck
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reader, flower girl +, writes (21 August 2007):
Everyone has different ways of dealing with things and if this is working for you, who are we to tell you that it's wrong, it's not as though you are hurting anyone.
Take care.xx.
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