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writes:Ok, so i have a problem that might sound weird..I like my third cousin, and she likes me.I've never known her until we met a few months ago, our families don't even really know each other its only that my mother is a family genealogy expert :SI don't know what to do, i suggested the idea to my parents and so did she, but they got really angry and forbade us from being together. I know the relationship probably feels closer to them because it is, but it is quite distant if you ask me. I feel so strongly about her. Is it wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): I am not sure if 3rd cousin relationships are right or wrong my son & his third cousin are seeing each other both teens, her parents did suspect a relationship but she told them they are just close friends, i on the other hand do know there is something going on and i am hoping it fizzles out as i see alot of friction from family over this, my sons, father, his cousin in her grandmother... do i make sense? i hope so! and her father is 2nd cousin to my sons father, phew this gets confusing... i have been searching for information as i need to know how to handle the situation...so i can say whether this is right or wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): Third cousin?
If look at the charts on how cousins are related... a third cousin might as well not be for all the genes you share (which is practically none).
Go for it... you're related to pretty much ever family line on Earth at some point if you go back far enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): if u guys aint related by blood then who cares what they think, go for it. but if she is related by blood, honestly if u both have feelings for each other, i would go for it. i had the same prob once. i went for it and i never regretted it. wouldnt care bout any other people's opinion, do what u feel is right.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 I take it she is a blood cousin?...and not because her family at some point married into your extended family?
But if you aren't directly related, I don't see how it can be a problem.
gabberjackranch is right, morally I'm not sure if it is wrong, but socially it could, probably will be, perceived as "wrong"...but that is assuming it is a direct blood cousin.
It sounds to me like you don't really know what your true blood relation is to her...you should find out. It could make things clearer for you.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): ( I am the one who posted the question by the way)
Well thanks for your feedback anyway. I know the idea does sound kind of gross, i think cousin relationships generally are, its more just the fact that i have never known her as a cousin, do you know what i mean? we arent directly related ( i think our great great grandparents were or something) and i dont think of her that way..
I tried to forget her, but i can't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): Morally I don't think that it is wrong, but socially, it is way wrong. You have to decide how much you care for her. If you presure this relationship, your family and perhaps friend may shun you. You have to consider all sides of the problem. I myself, don't see a problem with it. Please know that I will pray for you Sweetie.
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (30 July 2008):
 well... its kinda different... maybe its wrong. in all honesty at first the idea seeemed kinda of sick but im trying to stay open minded
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