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writes:Hi aunts and uncles, i have been secretly crushing on a friend for a year now. I know he" loves" me like a buddy, but that's not what i want. We have always been close and i think he suspects i have feelings for him. But he is still hung up on an ex. He is a flirt but very respectful and his mom is amazing, no dad around. Anyway. I have been taking cooking lessons bcos my job requires it. Its hit or miss when i do homework and fortunately for me, my friend always shows up when dinner's a hit! I have noticed he is more affectionate and attentive ands rings/texts more than b4. Is it true that a man's heart is thru his stomach? Did my lasagna, osso bucco, and fried chicken make him notice and see me differently? Dare i dream??? Please any and all info is heartily welcomed! !!!!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Anon, I know how to play an instrument, play a sport, speak a foreign language or two, I have held my own in many different situations, I have different interests, I can cook a bit, the instrument is half my life but I can do all that other stuff... and I'm still single... why? :S
To the poster... I know he's hung up on an ex, but don't wait too long to tell him how you feel. I don't know that someone would fall in love with someone JUST because they cook good food, but that could be a contributing factor, it shows you care to take the time to provide for someone.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (20 August 2010):
 I don't think you get to a man's heart through his stomach. I had heard strange things, like the Soviet surgeon that performed lung transplants in ten minutes, the East German surgeon who was able to transplant a brain in five minutes, and the wonderful Cuban who was able to perform a tonsillectomy in only eight hours. Socialist time. But this new anatomy lesson is kind of odd. The reason being, I might enjoy your food, and I might like the fact that I'm well fed, but that doesn't mean I will fall for you.
The reason why the Cubans take that little to perform the tonsillectomy is that they did it through the rectum. As everyone is aware, "when in Cuba, you can't open your mouth".
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): I think it is important for a woman to have many skills. Yeah you should know how to cook, tend a house, as well as know how to play a sport, an instrument, speak a second language, have lots of interests and skills in life, to know how to hold your own in lots of situations. Men generally like women who have interests and lots going for them (quality men anyways) just as long as they are YOUR interests, be yourself.
But at the end of the day it really depends on the man. Some men will appreciate it more than others. To this day, I have never won a guy over through his stomach. Ever. And I happen to be a great cook.
In my experience the men who I "won over" usually like to be the one's doing stuff for me. Its not a competition or a battle its just how men are, in my experience. They are providers, it makes them feel good to do stuff for the ladies. A man is more concerned about his manlihood than his stomach. Trust me. In fact I recently started dating somebody special and just last week he suggested on his own whim that he go home because he wanted to get food so that he could come back and cook for me...we ended up going out to dinner instead because I felt like going out (now I wish I had let him cook lol) but my point is I had never cooked him anything and he was more concerned about cooking for me than the other way around.
Unless he is chubby and just lives to eat, no I don't think your food will make him fall in love with you. However, if he is a nice guy he will definitely appreciate the effort. And men like passionate women so perhaps your passion about cooking he might find intriguing. You should keep cooking because it is a great talent to have.
If you want him to fall in love with you, you can't really make someone fall in love with you. Just keep being yourself, keep doing your thing and maybe eventually some spark will fly.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 August 2010):
 Lol, that expression has been around for as long as it has for a reason...
Really it comes back to the old school. Back when women were homemakers and nothing more. The best way to show your value was making sure your family was fed and your home taken care of. The better of a cook you were, the more proud of you he could be. He could show you off to his friends by inviting them over for dinner and letting them taste your delicious food. But, enough with the history lesson, on to your situation.
Did your lasagna, etc, make him notice and see you differently? Very likely yes. For two reasons. First, if it was delicious, then that speaks for itself. Second, if you invited him over, it shows him that you want to provide for him in some way. Preparing food for eachother can be very romantic, even when it isn't meant to be.
Dare you dream? Sure, I think he's showing definite signs of interest. Men who start going out of their way to spend time with you, especially one on one time, generally are interested in pursuing something more. Now, he is still getting over an ex, but you can help him with that. Be there for him, but don't wait to long to let him know you're interested in more. If you wait to long, he may fall for someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): A man does appreciate good food. His real love is to see the love a woman has in her eyes, for everthing. The way to a mans heart is his eyes, and your eyes. The stomach is just something to keep the car fueled properly. :)
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