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writes:Hi there I'm very worried about my height being a bloke, 18 and only bout 4ft 10 to 5ft tall n Im probably not going to worry.Is it really true that most girls prefer taller men and if so why would u reckon so? I personally find it harsh not just cos Im a short bloke.I feel like theres a next 2 no chance I will find the right one because of that and it's been distressing me for years and I've never had a gf in my life. Please can I have advice. Essentially from girls as well as men just need help in knowing how to go about it or what you reckon the real truth is in the majority of girls height preferances in their ideal partners. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): Sorry to sound negative, but from my personal experiences most women prefer taller men and few will admit to liking shorter men. Some even refuse to consider any man worthy of a date if he's not near 6'0, or more. I've dealt with attitude from short and tall ladies who see 5'5 and nothing but 5'5. This hasn't stopped me from approaching women of all different sizes because I've learned to deal with rejection. The shorter ladies are usually the most insecure, needing a taller man to compensate for their own short stature.
The best advice is to try and stay positive while approaching lots of different women, not just one. The worst thing she can do to you is politely say "no thanks," and leave it at that. Most women will appreciate the attention you're giving just by asking to talk to them, even if they aren't interested in you.
I will warn you, some women are blatantly cruel, arrogant and rude to short guys. They will laugh in your face for making an attempt to talk to them. Women with attitudes like these behave like the world belongs to them and they aren't worth your time. Not all women act like they are God's gift to men but there are lots who believe they have a right to all the tall dark and handsomes of this world.
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (9 November 2007):
 I've never crushed on a guy who was tall. Because I'm quite short, I find it kinda intimidating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): "Some girls prefer shorter guys," sorta like how, "Some girls prefer uglier guys." There's someone out there who likes anything you can name.
But the overall issue is that taller = more attractive. It's true unfortunately. At least up to a point.
Women seem to basically just want a guy to be a decent several inches taller than they are themselves. If you're 6'9" then that height isn't any better (and it's probably worse) than just being 6'1" tall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Since everyone else is giving a lot of sugar coated answers and hopeful opinions, I'll be the devil's advocate and say that unfortunately, a lot of females that I've met and have engaged in conversation with do prefer taller men over shorter men. I mean, I'm roughly half an inch from 5-7, but I've only found 3 females of the hundreds in the last decade that I know who don't mind someone who is slightly shorter. Everyone else prefer a guy between 5-9 and 6-2 if they are shorter than 5-6 themselves, or a guy above 6 feet if they are 5-7 to 5-9.
MIND you, I'm talking not talking about all females here. So obviously, if you aren't attracted to someone, but she is attracted to you and she is taller than you, well you know... 8]
Of course, like Minelisse, a lot of it has to do with attitude and confidence. Then again, it's a combination factor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): I don't like tall guys or shorter than 5'6". I have girlfriends who like them even shorter than I. Yes I think most women find taller guys more attractive but I have learned besides looks the biggest turn ons for us women are men who are secure of himself regardless of his looks, smart, romantic and is always smelling good.
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reader, iamheretohelp  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 hey, i think shorties are cute.
and so will others.
if they dont, then they're not for you.
im sure there is a girl out there for you...maybe shorter than you, maybe taller.
either way,
dont worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): i wouldn't get so worked up about it.
even though your 5ft which is below average height for a guy, it isn't tremendouxly short for a girls..girls dont mind if the guys the same hieght as them, or even a little shorter.
You're not incredibly short that it should be an issue for women, the average women is about 5ft 4/5 i think, so surely there shouldn't be a problem with dating girls a little taller then you, if not that same height.
I think you just need a little more confidence, and learn to be happy the way you are, because ultimatley that is what girls are attracted to.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Hi,
I don't know about most girls, but I'm 5ft 7 and have had a few boyfriends that were shorter than I. It was never an issue or a problem, they were great and I loved them. So much fun I would have missed if I had dismissed them only for being shorter than I! There are many girls who wouldn't care about your height at all. Not an advice, I know, but I hope it gives you some hope.
Wish you all the best!
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reader, calamitysil +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Some girls prefer short guys, some prefer tall guys, some like them skinny, some like their blokes cuddly! Basically at the end of the day it depends on what kind of person you are. Looks may play a part in getting you noticed, but the appeal won't last long if that's all you have to offer. So work on yourself, ensure you have a sense of humour, and get out there and have fun. Girls won't go near you if you look miserable and self conscious.A confident bloke will always get the girl no matter what he looks like!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Historically, or at least that is said by anthropologists, women have preferred taller men because they feel secured by them. Just as males prefer thin gals with some hips for childbearing.
This, however, has changed over the years (as we are not living in previous eras in which we needed a big and tall men to protect us), but the "ideal" continues to be taller men. That does not mean you have to be tall, just taller than your partner.
However, I have learned through life that attitude has a lot to do with EVERYTHING! Having a positive attitude, developing sweet talk, being a gentlemen and acknowledging your gals feelings and respecting them will take you farther in life that any other psychical characteristic. Work on that!
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