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writes:i have been dating my girlfriend for a little more than six months.we both love each other and get along great,and have so much in common.i want to ask her to marry me but is this to soon. Reply to this Question
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reader, stina +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Hello Anonymous,If you have to ask a bunch of strangers - or anyone else for that matter - whether or not it's too soon to ask your girlfriend to marry you, then it's too soon. If you really, really wanted to do this then my feeling is that you would have just done it.My personal view is that people should not get married before being with one another for at least three years. At six months there are still so many things that you don't know about each other. Wouldn't it be better to get to know one another better before getting married instead of still learning so, so much about the person after getting married? What's the rush? As long as you're with one another, then that's all that should matter.Take care.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Hi,
You AND your girlfriend are probably the best judge of whether you should get engaged! It's a good idea to have a long engagement - at least a year. That will give you plenty of time to make wedding plans and future living arrangements. Congratulations!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): Marriage is a life-long commitment. I would say get to know her a bit more before proposing. After all 6 months isn't long enough to know that you are going to stay together forever. But if you do plan to propose make sure you are engaged for at least a few years. You need to know the ins and outs of someone before agreeing to get married to them.
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Getting married is something you could decide to do. But I would point, out as you have that it has been a VERY short space of time you have known each other, and it could be something you regret if you rush into it. I don't think many people regret getting married sooner, so I would advise waiting it out a little longer. People can change, and it would be awful if one of you did such a short time into marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): well, my grandparents got married after 5 months, but it just depends on how well you know herif she is not expecting it that would be a great surprise, but, don't move too fast because there is the risk of her saying no because she wants to get to know you morebe accepting
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): I would give it another year or so. Whats the rush? You don't need to put your lives on hold just because you're not engaged - make it a great year. Experience new things and new situations - it can be great fun - visit new places - all this will add width and depth to your relationship, build a foundation, give you some great memories and then perhaps you will be 150% sure about proposing.
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reader, Artemesian  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 6 months is long enough to get to know someone reasonably well..some couples need a lifetime while others feel only a few months is enough. You're the only one who can know whether asking her now is too early or not. If you are both in love and very happy together then engagement seems only natural. You can be engaged for years, it's all up to you two. Not many women will turn down the man they love when proposing! It's such a romantic way of saying you want to commit to them permanently. I say do what your heart urges you to do, good luck!
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reader, edsbabygirl +, writes (3 August 2007):
 I think that you should wait until you know for sure the way she really is. My boyfriend and I have changed alot since we started dating and it has gotten to be a whole knew thing. What you need to know is that things change and if you don't give yourselfs to be the real you. And are you sure that she really loves you to. Best of wishes!
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