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writes:My girlfriend is 14, and I am 15. We're both very mature for our age. We both have a strong lead in Creative Writing and English Lit. We've been dating for a month and a half and we tell each other we love one another. I mean it when I say it, I think. It's not that I'm unsure of my feelings for her, it's more of that I just don't want to set myself up for heartbreak. We are pretty much that couple that people never saw as being even friends, or Boyfriend and girlfriend for that mater. We met once, before she went to Tx for a few weeks. I found her online, and started talking to her. She caught my eye first time I saw her ( Cliche, but honest ) We hung out the day after she got back and ever since been pretty inseapretable (sp) since then. My family adores her, and her family finds me very nice, and sweet and they really like the fact I treat her daughter with such respect. I don't see anything wrong with out relationship. My questions to you readers is that, is it too soon in our life to have a relationship so serious? To be so young, and so sure that we love each other? We write each other letters, sit there and talk about our feelings and it's so reassuring to hear her talk about us, and to here me actually say the words " I love you " . I'm young, I'm not too aware of everything in the world, and you guys know that you go in and out of relationships when you're a teenager. Should I stop the worry of being so young, or should I stop myself now? I don't want to, at all. I love this girl, but it seems so weird because I'm so young and all you hear about in life is not knowing what love is. Love is a feeling- to me. It's something I can get use to aswell.Sorry if that doesn't make sense, it's the easisit way to say it all.
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reader, J.A.B.V  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 im 14,i dont know everything about anything to be honest,but i know myself,i know that love isnt confined to a certain age group,im in love myself and i know people dont beleive me when i say it but I've found a guy that is perfect for me,not perfect but perfect for me,and i love him.Love is so precious to love someone and for them to love you back is epicly lucky so young,were both lucky =)
SO enjoy it,heartbreak is part of growing up.granted its not the most fun part but its a big part.So go for it!take a chance...for love =)
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 I met the absolute love of my life when we were 15. At 15 there were no mortgages, no car payments, no health problems. In other words, it was the perfect time for us to fall in love with each other. We dated. We split. 29 years and thousands of miles later we found each other and we have been inseparable ever since. Love really does conquer all.
Carpe diem my friend. Seize the day. You never know what's around life's proverbial corners.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (19 February 2011):
You should enjoy your love, not to question it. The better way to know if you were too young is try it and see what happens. If a couple should break up upon not knowing for sure that the relationship will work, there would be no couples at all.
Loving someone feels good, so while it lasts concentrate in the good feeling.
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (19 February 2011):
Are you too young? My answer is no, a clear, straight no. All the adults on here will say yes, but I am 15 too, as is my boyfriend and I'm in the same situation and we've been together a year and a half. We're both intelligent and mature people. Most people our age probably would be too young to properly fall in love, but if you've been through a lot you realise what you want. There isn't an age at which true love is found, you could be 12 or 112, it doesn't matter- love is love. You sound like a lovely couple, don't let your feeling of being too young get in the way :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 As long as you are not planning on babies or getting married it isn't wrong, or a bad idea, to experience love at a young age. Treat her with respect as you already are, and enjoy what you have. In the end that's the best thing you can do in life: enjoy it. You wont be more sure of what love is now than you will be 10 years down the road. Figuring out how you feel for someone can be a difficult process, but it can also be very easy. Some people are just more in touch with themselves and know themselves well enough to understand their feelings. Others go around thinking they love someone when they don't, or thinking they don't love someone when they do. And on some special occasions you just "know".
No one can tell you what you truly feel than yourself. As for what's too soon and what's not too soon, people differ there too. Typically though, teenagers are unsure about everything in life and unsure about themselves and the world, and other people etc, and then they won't know how they actually feel about someone, or have the experience with these feelings to be able to say if this is a feeling that is momentarily, or a feeling that will last forever.
But, you learn through experience. If you don't experience love now, you will have to experience it later, and later you will be just as clueless if you haven't had it earlier. There's a first for everything.
Others will also say that it's too soon after only a month and a half. Thats another aspect all in itself. But again, like I said, people are different. What's too soon for some could be just the right time for you. Just be understanding of peoples feelings developing at different speeds, and in different patterns, than your own. So even if your girlfriend loves you, her love for you is most likely different than your love for her (not saying it's not true, but people's feelings are unique to each person), and as you proceed she might want to go faster, or slower, than you.
I don't know what else to say other than it would be silly to throw away something that makes you happy. Let that be my words of wisdom to you.
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reader, Maurice Daniel +, writes (19 February 2011):
I dont think you should worry, coz i was in the same situation when i was 15. I loved my gf, we were young but it didnt matter. To us we werent too young to have a serious relationship at all. I learnt alot from our relationship, and i hope you do too. Hope it works out mate! All the best.
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