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writes:Dear readers,I'm a little confused about the situation I encountered a few days ago. I really like to play games that require some deep thought, including both traditional card games (no gambling though) and more recent tarding card games. So we were having a walk, me and my gf (dating for 3 years), and stumbled upon a peculiar game at the shop she wanted to get badly. We bought it and and as we removed the cellophane, the pandorica opened.We read the rules, played a few rounds and left and started real game. I was greatly excited by how deep the gameplay was and played a few good combinations that came to mind. She, on the other hand, did not put much thought into the game (I know her abilities) and started to lose rapidly. What happened then shocked me a lot. She called me an ass several times and when her position on became even worse (this time a dice made the job for me), she was already close to crying. I asked her to roll again and further we played with a lot of violations from her side, with me slowly sliding to losing the game.I'm used to losing games, although this way it felt more like I didn't play it at all. I just don't understand why she has to take this personally. I played a lot of similar stuff with my friends and we always enjoyed playing fiercely, maximizing our chances to win with everything that's within the rules. I mean, that's the game, you never want to have a lousy opponent, right? But playing with my gf does not seem to work. Is it really that boring?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (2 June 2013):
 I play board games a lot, our group is an equal mix of men and women and everyone is equally into it and equally good at it. It's nonsense that women aren't into board games. In fact, when I tell women about playing board games they tend to be positive and want to play: i think it's the combination of it being very social and not involving computers.
It sounds like your girlfriend is just a bad loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2013): Yes boring. The female brain is a lot different than the male. While she can absolutely crush you in the verbal battlefield, she has almost no luck in beating you in the strategy and maths field. It is just not their thing.
But in your case, I guess she wasn't just bored. I guess she was feeling insecure/humiliated for being outsmarted by you. It may be related to her past. For example, has she ever been called dumb in the school? Was she a bright child?
Remember that no one is perfect, even you. If she is a good girl, just don't bring her weaknesses to her attention. If she is a b..ch, just let her go and find a good one.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (1 June 2013):
 It's not her thing. She doesn't enjoy it. She only plays to make you happy. Maybe you're a bad winner. And it sounds like that you saw she wasn't enjoying it but you pushed her to keep playing (sorry if I've read that wrong).
Just don't ask her to play with you again. Tell her you're sorry that she got upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2013): I think some girls are just emotionAl when their bf are kicking their butts lol and some aren't .. I'm a girl and I have four brother and used to competitive play I found if I didn't try and outwit my brothers and cried at losing they wouldn't count me in to play. So I had to learn to be competitive lol which meant as I am a quick learner becoming sometimes better than they were at certain games .. And if I lost taking it on the chin.. I am not a tomboy by any means quite a girlY girl unless its a game of strategy wit endurance and game play .. Your gf been used to being shielded and therefore when you win she shows you her distress in tears , I think it's best in your case to either let her win or keep this kind of games to your male friendsBut not all girls are the same . Good luck
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reader, Tantivy  +, writes (1 June 2013):
Are you sure she wasn't just in a bad mood? I'm sure you know her quite well after 3 years of dating - I assume you have quite a good relationship? I wouldn't take it too personally - it's just that different people take different things seriously. Your girlfriend was probably more into the game than she initially let on, as she was the one who wanted to buy it, after all.TBH, some girls just don't like getting into competitions with their partners; after all, there's often an unspoken rule often that the guy should be considerate and let the girl win. Girls like to feel like their boyfriends would do anything for them. After all, the stereotypical notion of romantic love doesn't involve the guy beating his girlfriend at everything! I know it doesn't sound sensible but I myself am like this, as are several other girls I know, and I guess your girlfriend is possibly like this too.Why don't you talk it over with her when you both are calmer, make up and maybe just avoid playing stuff like this in future if you see it different ways? You guys can both play the game with your platonic friends instead. And do remember, some girls don't like being beaten by their boyfriends at things! (I'm sure the reverse often occurs as well). Best of luck :)
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