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writes:What kind of internal injuries can be suffered during rough sex that lasts for hours? My new BF has a large penis and after our most recent encounters, I am still sore 2 days later. Internally and it burns when I pee. He used a condom and says he doesn't have STDs... I think it may be a urinary track infection - but are there other options? What can I do to avoid this pain days later. I love the sex but can't suffer like this after. Suggestions?
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (8 March 2010):
 He has something
You have no legal or moral obligations, wtf?
You are the victim here. If he did not know he had it, tell him he needs to get tested. He is unclean and gave you a UTI and a yeast infection. That is really bad.
He could be a carrier of HSV 1 and it can get on the vagina if he goes down on you.
tell him to get tested and don't see him until he showers and tests negative for everything, if you insist on still seeing him.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (8 March 2010):
Eyespy17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTerrible update:
The UTI and yeast infection was not all.
I was just diagnosed with Herpes. HSV-1. The so-called "good kind". The one that 90-percent of the population has in their mouth and call "cold sores".
Well, apparently I have it on my vagina now. From oral. (We used a condom).
The sores are not bad at all, I honestly thought they were just cuts, friction burn, or irritation from the waxing.
I'm awaiting more test results which will tell me if I contracted it within the last four to six weeks; (meaning from the new guy) or it was dormant in my system.
In the last 3 and 1/2 years, I've had two sex partners. The old boyfriend of three years and this new one.
I'm assuming it's the new guy. He didn't have any visible sores on his mouth, and he claims not to have STDs. I've read it's possible not to know you're a carrier .. And to be honest, up until now, I didn't realize that a cold sore was herpes. It's so much more socially acceptable on your mouth instead of your vagina.
Sigh.
I guess now, do I tell the new guy considering he is the one who gave it to me? I'm working under the assumption that he doesn't know he has it and can spread it from his mouth to a vagina.
What are my moral and legal obligations?
Thanks for your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010):
I have had some similar down there issues lately- i think the best thing to do is to be gentle with yourself and abstain for a while so everything down there can have a chance to heal properly.
Maybe take some inner health capsules or have a natural yoghurt each day for a while- the uti may have be caused by the yeast infection or vice versa. You've taken a bit of a battering down there, and if you don't give yourself time to chill out you might get a recurrence of infection, and once you are in that cycle it will take a long time to get out of it and you risk doing more damage that will be harder to fix. If you are prone to sores from waxing, and want to maintain yourself,after they've disappeared try very softly exfoliating and using a depilatory cream or a razor with shaving cream. I wouldn't continue waxing if it proves to be folliculitis.
Try hard not to get back into the sack after the sores have healed, It sucks,
but be gentle with yourself for a while- trust me, once you start getting infections (uti and other) they can start to plague you if you don't give your body time to relax and get sorted. If the sores prove to be folliculitis, try not doing anything down there for two weeks, (i know i know but its worth it) There is a fine PH balance in that area, and once it is off balance it needs time and help to get sorted again. It is not not worth getting chronic infections (yeast, UTI, thrush etc) because you feel ready.
Take care- and if he has a problem waiting for you to get sorted,
kick his ass :) x
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (1 March 2010):
Eyespy17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate:
It no longer burns when I pee. The Cipro seemed to help. I also used Monistat and the itching inside went away as well.
Looks like I had both a UTI and a yeast infection.
The only outstanding concern is small ulcers, so just to be safe, I went to see a doctor. He says it does not look like herpes right off the bat, but rather said he thinks it's Folliculitis from waxing.
He took a sample. I also submitted urine for additional STD tests.
Results come back Tuesday.
I'm still too sore for sex however b/c of these small abrasions/ulcers.
Anyone have a suggestion to make them go away?
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (27 February 2010):
No celibacy is not the answer.
Obviously something went wrong with the condom or you are allergic to Latex condoms. If that is the case, they have non-latex condoms that would work.
Calm down. Breath. Get checked out by a doctor.
As far as your bf's std knowledge, it is NIL.
You can get HIV and not have antibodies for SIX MONTHS, same with any other STD or virus for that matter.
He needs to get tested with you. You need to see the results. You need to then continue to use condoms. If the results are the same 3 months later, you are in the clear.
That is why the porn industry, for example, is completely unsafe, which is the only reason why I didn't do it.
Knowledge is power, avoidance is admitted defeat.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (27 February 2010):
Eyespy17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your answers.I started Cipro assuming it's a UTI .. but I'm still freaking b/c the skin around the vagina is VERY irritated. I've had yeast infections before where the skin around gets sore..but Of course I'm thinking herpes, or chlamydia.I told this new BF about it - of course he says he's perfectly healthy and volunteered to go with me and get tested to prove it.. I'm going to try to get an emergency appointment at the gyn tomorrow.ugh..maybe celibacy is the answer..
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (26 February 2010):
If it is chlamydia and you do not get it treated what ends up happening is it can stay dormant and your children you might have later can get it.
Congenital Chlamydia (the clap passed on from mother to child) causes lung damage to new borns that is irreversible.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (26 February 2010):
Dear EyeSpy17m
It is possible, yes.
I am 7.5 inches long, 7 inches around, and can hide a HTP Smartphone behind my fully erect penis width wise. That was to give you an idea of what I have to do to make sure I don't hurt the woman i am with during rough and regular sex. Aka I have been in your guy's position for 5 years.
Here is some advice.
1. Take pees before and after, just like everyone else said.
2. Focus on foreplay, as you already know I am sure. It can range a lot from traditional man going down on woman oral sex to spanking to complete and total domination. IT depends on the you, of course. Find what works for you in that department and go from there.
I personally have found the following to work...
First get the woman warmed up by kissing her, her neck, and going down her body, until you get down to her vaginal area. Kiss the inside of her legs, and then start.
At a rate of 60 strokes of the tongue per minute start from the bottom of the labia and work push through putting an emphasis in strength of stroke on the bottom of the clitoral hood (the area most sensitive) and make it follow through pushing it against the teeth. (I have a small space in between my teeth allowing it to be stimulated from every angle.) Repeat this for around 5 minutes.
Signs it is effective- Whenever you are pushing through the woman generally would do a pelvic thrust up.
After she is clearly warmed up and wet, while still doing oral, insert the index and middle finger in between 11 and 1 o' clock 1.5 to 2 inches in on the anterior aspect of the vaginal wall (the pubic bone area). At this point, pushing down on the pubic area (not too hard!) while rubbing with the pads of the index and middle finger, will be most beneficial.
Fingers are a good way to increase size of the vaginal opening to help acclimatize you to your new BF's penis.
I used to work in a fetish boutique a couple summers ago, and they had cheap sex toys that were clit stimulators called bullets. Many women have them, and I am sure you have used them. If you have not, I recommend one of those for you to use for the first couple of minutes when he is penetrating you.
The position you are starting off in also matters. I find what works best, is when the woman goes down slowly riding facing away from me or facing me. The positions depend on her preference. Does she wants to be spanked, fingered anally, have her clit played with, get kissed etc?
3. The best kind of lubrication is water based lubrication. Vaseline gunks up the vaginal and anal canals and the other type of lube eats away at condoms causing them to be inneffective.
As far as your burning while peeing is concerned, it is quite possible you have Gonorrhea or Chlamydia. It is most likey to be Chlamydia.
IF you get Chlamydia, it should be as simple as taking one pill and it will make it go away.
It's nothing to worry about if you get it checked out now.
Good Luck with your new StudMuffin ;)
-IHateWomanBeaters
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): Something that really helped me (my partner is big too, and i got UTI's) Was peeing after and BEFORE sex (that really helped!)- bruising and bumping into the bladder can make it a bit tender, so if its full it can make you ache a bit. Also, sometimes you think you're wetter than you actually are, it helps to get some very good lubricant- one that doesn't feel like some one's putting cold porridge on you (ok, that might just be how i feel ;) that is water based (coco der mer does a very good one) makes a bigger difference than you might think. best of luck :)
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 My current partner used to leave me feeling like I was internally bruised when we first started having sex. Lubrication was not a problem, he was not rough, and he is fairly avg length wise ...he is just ummm 'chunky' and I am petite, so it took some getting used to - which meant having to refrain at times until I wasn't feeling like I had been punched up on the inside. If your partner is being rough tho and at it for hours, then I imagine that could happen to anyone regardless of sizes being at opposite ends of the spectrum, so tell him to take it easy.
The other issues sounds like a UTI which can be caused from too much friction and having bacteria enter the urinary tract. Go down to a chemist/drug store and get some urinary alkalizer sachets that should help relieve the discomfort, but may be worth a visit to a GP too.
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reader, Kenneth +, writes (25 February 2010):
You need to be more lubricated before he penetrates you. Use sex lube gel.Practice more or longer foreplay. Once you are real wet, he is ready to go. Have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): I have a large penis and when I first met my girlfriend (now my wife) she got urinary tract infections (Cystitis) a couple of times from the rampant sex we where having.Aparently it is quite common especially with Honeymooners, that are at it all the time!If you have an infection go and see your doctor for antibiotics.Also very good idea to pee after each time you have intercourse to flush out any bacteria. After my wife starting peeing each time afterwards it never happened to her again.Also you will become acustomed to your partners large size with time aswell. If you've never been with someone that big before or your not used to having Alot of sex, its natural to feel sore at first. But you will adjust to it.
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reader, AskLeeanne  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Hi there, well dear, yes im afraid it is possible recieve bruising in and around your vagina if you are having sex with a well endowed male and especially when the sex is fast and hard!, the female vagina is a very sensitive organ and too much rough sex can bruise you, i suggest pain killers for the pain, but also get checked out at your local GP for a UTI(urinary tract infection) as this can cause a dull ongoing pain in your lower pelvic area, lower back and whilst urinating. Tell your sexual partner to go easy as that it is causing you alot of discomfort and he should take heed?Good LuckRegards Leeeanne
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reader, realman +, writes (25 February 2010):
I think the best way is telling him about your pain. let him be soft and gentle next time. Then you can make it. or else you will suffer it constantly ,not only once.
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