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writes:I was wondering if I have on my clothes and I come into contact with a male who has on clothes as well and I feel his penis kind of touch my vagina is that losing the virginity?I was in pain afterwards but there was no bleeding.I was emotional and confused about the situation but I didn't know if I had lost my virginity because I had on my clothes.But I was sore after that and the next two days afterwards.Please tell me if I lost my v-card or not because everything changed for me such as my body,breasts.I just felt like a whole different person.I didn't want that to happen with that person.Is a such thing as someone popping the beginning or your cherry and someone else popping the rest of it later?I'm confused?Please help
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reader, Analdia +, writes (13 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the question okay thank you
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reader, Analdia +, writes (12 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah but i'm talking about hormone wise not just by having sex to get addicted.My hormones don't rage or anything sp therefore I don't feel that I had sex.That's what i'm saying maam
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reader, Analdia +, writes (12 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPeople say that once u start having sex u won't be able to stop because of addiction.You'll have a urge to have sex.But I really don't have an urge or a feeling of wanting to have sex.I have no feelings about sex.So does that mean that if I actually have sex with my clothes off,i'll remember that person?
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 OMG! Analdia...You're doin' my head in, I want to scream!
Lol!
: o
I thought we solved this problem? How could it have gone in a 'Tinch' if you insisted you both still had your pants on??
BigSis
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reader, Analdia +, writes (8 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay but it went in a tinch but he didn't go through all the way
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Sweetie,Big Sis gave you great information.If his penis did not go "inside" of your vagina you are still a virgin. I, as big sis was, am confused as to why you would be sore. After your second or third post you said there was no grinding, so there is no obvious reason for you to be sore. Sweetheart, find someone older and wiser to give you information on these things. You really need it and honestly with you not knowing something as simple as your question, you're not ready to make the decision of if you're ready to loose your virginity in my opinion.Good luck sweetieMP
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reader, Analdia +, writes (5 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you big sis I appreciate it
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reader, BigSis +, writes (5 September 2008):
Hi Analdia,
You can relax now sweetheart, you are still a virgin. I was just as confused after reading your post.
I don't know why you experienced pain and why you're feeling so different since that happened, it could just be psychological.
If you stop fretting over this, hopefully everything will return to normal.
Good luck for the future.
BigSis
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reader, Analdia +, writes (4 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis guy did not rub his penis until he climaxed.He just sat me down on top of his lap with my legs open and that was that.It was over because after I felt his penis I jumped up because I then realized what had happened.There was no grinding or anything but I was sore though.Thank everyone for helping me.God Bless
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reader, Analdia +, writes (4 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You all.This is what happened,there was no pulling the panties to one side I had on my panties and my pants.So did he he had on his pants as well.I felt his penis touch like the tip of my vagina.His penis was in his pants.I did not slide my panties off at all.We both had on clothes but I had sat down on top of his penis with my clothes on but I was wet and he was hard that is what I'm saying maam.I basicallt just sat down on top of him and after that eveything changed.My cherry felt like it had almost or did pop.It was sore.His penis did not go all the way through but it did touch the tip of my vagina maam.It didn't go anywhere near all the way through my vagina.Thank eveyone for helping me with this!!!
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reader, Analdia +, writes (4 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You all.This is what happened,there was no pulling the panties to one side I had on my panties and my pants.So did he he had on his pants as well.I felt his penis touch like the tip of my vagina.His penis was in his pants.I did not slide my panties off at all.We both had on clothes but I had sat down on top of his penis with my clothes on but I was wet and he was hard that is what I'm saying maam.I basicallt just sat down on top of him and after that eveything changed.My cherry felt like it had almost or did pop.It was sore.His penis did not go all the way through but it did touch the tip of my vagina maam.It didn't go anywhere near all the way through my vagina.Thank eveyone for helping me with this!!!
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reader, BigSis +, writes (4 September 2008):
Right, Analdia,Did he penetrate you with his penis? In simpler terms, did he put his penis inside your vagina? If he did, then you had intercourse and you are no longer a virgin. If he never entered you at all, then yes, you are still a virgin.What I can't understand here is this; you said, "his penis kind of touch my vagina"... Was it in his pants or not? And why were you in pain afterwards and you were feeling sore, and you said there was no bleeding? Not all girls bleed when they have their first sexual encounter. My guess is he did penetrate you, you both may still have had your clothes on, but it doesn't stop him poking it out of his pants and sliding it inside you by moving your panties to one side. Is this what happened? You need to tell us if he put it inside you or not. You must at least know that much. Once we know exactly what happened, we can make you understand this all a little bit better.Something else you said;"Is a such thing as someone popping the beginning or your cherry and someone else popping the rest of it later?"Once your 'cherry' has been 'popped' Analdia, it cannot be popped again. BigSisxXx
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reader, Analdia +, writes (4 September 2008):
Analdia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all the people who helped me I'm still confused because some people saw I am and some people say I'm not.I don't know what it's like to have sex but I don't feel innocent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): Yes, you are still a virgin.And, quite frankly, you need to get both some basic sexual knowledge, as well as interpersonal relationship skills, FAST!What, exactly, did you do with this guy? Did he rub his erection against you - through clothes - until he climaxed? The slang term for this is "dry humping". The technical term is "frottage". It's used in adult lovemaking sometimes during foreplay, but more commonly when the partners want to refrain from actual intercourse. (Perhaps because they want to postpone intercourse until after they are married.)If he did it without your permission it is illegal in most places in the U.S., and may even be classified as rape. If you don't want this kind of intimacy with this particular guy, why did you let it happen?And please - find a teacher or counselor at your school who can help you learn about the biology and physiology of sex. Or somebody at your county health department. If it's too embarrassing to ask, just print out this page and hand it to the person - they'll understand.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (4 September 2008):
 To anonymous poster below me:
Yes, sex-ed is really bad in United States. I didn't even have that class.
As for the O.P, like many have pointed out, you lose your virginity when the penis enters your vagina, no matter how far or for how long it stayed there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): Hiya,
Dont worry you didnt lose your virginity, as you didnt have sexual intercourse because you had clothes on.
Its great you want to save it for someone special =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): In my opinion I would say you are still a virgin. For me, a virgin is someone who hasnt had sexual intercourse, and your discription isnt really sexual intercourse.
Like others have said, you may not bleed anyway when you loose your virginity, I didnt.
Sounds like you wanna hold out for someone special, and when he comes along I wish you all the luck in the world
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reader, BigSis +, writes (3 September 2008):
Forget his and your clothes...a virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse.
Whether you had clothes on or not, Hon, if his penis penetrated your vagina then yes, you have lost that 'V' card.
There is only one 'cherry' to pop ...and it's situated inside your vagina, which is the pathway in and out of your reproductive system ....but ~ in saying that, and please make note of this next piece of information, as it's particularly interesting...
the vagina may be partially covered by your hymen, a thin stretch of skin. Some young women don’t have a hymen at all. Others have stretched it or torn it using tampons or exercising. Some hymens tear naturally in childhood, some during puberty. Some hymens have one hole while others have several.
Plenty of virgins have barely noticeable hymens; non-virgins may even have intact, though stretched, hymens.
Best of luck, my dear, but for piece of mind, why don't you take yourself off to your local clinic for more advice.
BigSis
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (3 September 2008):
 You could probably have had your hymen broken this way. But losing virginity is when his penis is inside you without you both wearing clothes or panties. x
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