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writes:I have a question about a mysterious bruise incident.Fact: She told me had a bruise and it hurt like heck and she got it by bumping into the sharp corner of her dresser in the dark, on her chest.Fact: The next day she showed me where the bruise was, upper chest right below collar bone, except there was no bruise. She then added to her story saying that she had not realized there was bruise at all till she went to her acupuncturist who while applying needles discovered a sore spot, the bruise apparently left no mark.Before first hearing of the bruise I had not seen her for 7 days.Is it possible to have a bruise on that part of your body without it leaving a mark?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, baby-blue-eyes  +, writes (4 November 2011):
from what you have said yes it does sound as though there was something going on there but i cant be certain because i didnt actually see the actions. i would advise you to always go with your gut instinct and your instinct is obviously telling you shes lying
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis was a girl I was going out with at this time I'm not seeing her anymore.
There were alot of oddities about her behavior though..that caused me to ..wonder.
1: She would often suffer from stress over the weekened..when I wasnt with her..withdraw pretty much become un-available..then after the weekend she would be fine. She said thats how she deals with stress..goes into her cave. thats possible..but how convienient over the weekend..her days off.
2: I noticed a pattern every week or so on a monday she would become very tired or be visiting a girlfriend..everything always took place at 6pm and lasted till about a little after 1am in the morning?
3: The bruise conversation would have been no issue at all except right after that story she started talking about some guy she went on a date with once several months ago..extreme detail..a little to much info actually about the guy and the bruise..a bruise and a guy you went on one date with several months ago dont both require a long drawn out story..then she ended the conversation by talking about how she is was glad i dont have any major insecurity issues and that she is glad that trust is not an issue with us? it was not any one of those things that made me take a second glance..it was all 3 together?
4: Whenever I tried to talk to her about it and how i was feeling..she would get very defensive..acuse me of being insecure and tell me i have trust issues? go figure.
5: Needless to say..we had a couple heated discussions and she became out right cruel and viscious..100% personality change. When I saw this other person come out, that was enough for me.
The reason your hearing about this is that I'm kind of an introspective person and I question my part in the whole thing..did I over react? was I seeing things that were not there? If I did..ok..live and learn..just wondering.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2011): sometimes a bruise takes a few days to come up, so that you can actually see it, but if it doesn't show up at all, it either isn't very bad, it doesn't exist, or maybe she just doesn't bruise very much. I wouldn't worry about it unless you really think something serious is going on.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 November 2011):
 Who is she?
Do you think she lied about how she obtained this bruise, perhaps someone hit her?
Is she a type of person who milks her injuries for the extra attention??
As everyone else has already said, yes it's possible to have a sore spot without a bruise.
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reader, baby-blue-eyes +, writes (3 November 2011):
absolutely possible i fell off my horse and fractured my spine i had no bruising what so ever just a immense amount of pain
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reader, doublejack +, writes (3 November 2011):
I'm also wondering why this bruise makes you suspicious. Are there other things, as well? This on it's own is really nothing to be concerned with in my opinion. However, I suspect that you've noticed other things which make you think your significant other may be cheating.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 November 2011):
 Bruising happens below the skin therefore it can be painful under the skin without leaving any mark.
Not sure why you are bothered about this though, surely there are more important things to worry about than a bruise or non bruise on your partner?! Do you think she is lying to you about other things not just her health?
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2011): Something very similar happened to me...
When I was learning how to ride horseback, I had a series of falls, which is typical, until I got the hang of things. I didn't have any real injuries but I remember feeling a bit stiff and I could FEEL the bruises, but I remember being surprised because they weren't visible. I love to ride horses so it was worth it.. but I remember thinking, where is my bruise? I can FEEL it.
why don't you believe her?
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (3 November 2011):
Perhaps the acupuncturist applied a needle wrong and made up an excuse? Perhaps the soft tissue, muscle, or bone directly below her skin is bruised? Perhaps the incident caused some inflammation deep below the skin and the inflammation is irritating a nerve? Perhaps it is just one of those 'pressure points' that happens to hurt like a bruise when pressed?I can't do more than offer possibilities.It is possible to bruise body parts and still have inflammation and pain in deeper tissue/bone long after any surface blemish has faded. For example, I had a nasty spill off my bike during a violent thunderstorm and as I fell, I sustained a bruise to my lower shin directly over the bone. I continued to experience a throbbing bruise-like pain and for weeks after the visible bruise went away because I had bruised the bone under the skin.If you don't mind sharing: have you sought advice on this situation because of suspicions surrounding the circumstances causing the bruise, suspicions about the acupuncturist's explaination for the pain, or general suspicions about your girlfriend? If so, could you please give a little more background? If not, what is your reason for asking? The tone of your question leads me to believe you are upset or angry about something directly related to this bruise incident and if you feel like sharing a little more info, we can probably assist you better.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 November 2011):
 ... Why are you wondering about this? Its a silly bruise, why is it important if it shows or not? Bruises can come and go, or hurt for a while, or have a mark without hurting... Yeah I don't see anything odd about her story at all, and why would it matter? It's not like a person would lie about a stupid bruise.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 November 2011):
 I'd like to focus ob n a different detail, altogether....
You Sister should have a mammogram to check for breast cancer.... Sensitivity such as you describe could well come from a tumor in her breast....
Good luck to her. I hope she has a mammo....AND that it proves negative!!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 November 2011):
 Yes off course it is, she may have hurt herself by walking in to something in the dark and it may not have left a mark but it still could very well be sore. Am not sure why you are not just taking her word for this though and you don't believe her.
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