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*halley
writes:Hi! Here's my problem.i and my bf have been dating for 8 months now and we have not had sex with each other.i'm a virgin but he is not.we agreed not to have sex until we are married which could be in 4-5 years time.we only only have make out sessions nd sometimes dry humping.my questions now is this: 1. is it possible for our relationship to last for such long time of 4-5 years? 2. is it also possible for us not to have sex for this long or could he be deceiving me with the agreement of not having sex with me? I realy need answers to this.thank u all.
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reader, shalley +, writes (31 August 2011):
shalley is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all.i really appreciate your invaluable answers.God bless u. As for those who feel d relationship period is too long,it actually because of our educational pursuit and our parents will never give consent to our marriage if we dont graduate from the university.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011): It's possible, but difficult. I was in a long term relationship for about 5 years when I was younger and my GF and I were both virgins for moral reasons. The problem was that we moved apart for school, and the relationship eventually faded. I ended up being a virgin until a much later age than most men (or women). This sucks in a way because you're thrown into the dating scene having almost no experience sexually at an age when most people are already very experienced. If your BF has already had sex, it will be especially difficult for him to hold out for 4-5 years. In my estimation, the odds of the relationship lasting that long and both of you refraining from sex are probably relatively low. But, that's not to say it couldn't be done, just that it would be difficult.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (30 August 2011):
Anything possible, im heading home in two months and i spoke to someone i dated for two and a half years. I was hoping to marry her, but her two brothers fault me through the whole relationship. I really never thought about having sex with her. I just remember how crazy i was taking by her. After 20 years, i'll meet her again so anything is possible. He's not a virgin, but at some point he may want to go futher. You need to talk serious about it. Why wait 5 years, heck it seems like a waste to me for such a long time.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (30 August 2011):
 For it to work it really has to be something you both beleive in. If only one of you is for it and the other one is just going along with it then it will come through in time. Then either the relationship ends or the person who wanted to wait till marriage gives in.
I do have doubts that he wants to wait. He probably he hoping that you give in before the relationship gets that tension.
This is something you both really have to consider and have a firm grounding for why you want it to be this way or else things will start to fall apart.
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