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writes:is it ok to wait til your 18 or so or at uni to lose your virginity or do anything sexual (other than kissing)?p.s i live in uk where everyone has sex before 16 [rolls eyes]id like everyones personal oipinions please, also not "don't be pressured into anything" or "any age is fine" thankyou x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Hey. What i think about losing your virginity is that you have to make sure you actually love the person. Before you lose your virginity to them. It is important to have your virginity sacred to you? Unless you really want to lose it to someone you don't really love. I'm only 14. So I don't plan to lose mines for a long time.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Hi
I am from the UK too.
I think 18 is an ideal age. I have to say, I had to do it before I went to uni, didn't want to be the only virgin at uni LOL.
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reader, missnatd03 +, writes (28 January 2008):
 im from the uk and i lost my virginity when i was 16 and unfortunately u r right when u say that people roll there eyes at you my mates made fun of me cause i was 15 and still a virgin and i was pressured into losing it not buy by now fiance but my friends so as you can imagine i was really anoyed when i learned that the people making fun of me were actually virgins themselves
point of answer is not as many people have had sex in the uk then it is made out and the people rolling there eyes at you are most likely following the crowd and theres a good chance there virgins themselves
(,") hope i helped (",)
xox natalie xox
p.s yes it is fine to be a virgin at your age and at uni
GOOD LUCK AND PAY NO ATTENTION TO WHAT PEOPLE THINK OR SAY TO YOU, JUST LIVE LIFE AND HAVE FUN WHILST LIVING IT XXX
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reader, MissKin +, writes (13 January 2008):
 Yes. It's perfectly fine to wait until you are 18 or even 25 to have sex for the first time. Some people rush into it and regret it and some people are ashamed about being virgins at or after 16. I live in the UK too and I know what you mean. There is a sort of issue about people having sex by the time they're 16, let alone 18. But i'm 17 and a virgin, and i may or may not be a virgin when i turn 18 in march. When i was fifteen i thought 'omg! i'm still a virgin and i turn 16 soon.' And looking back, i'm glad i've waited and know I won't regret it when i have sex with my boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with waiting. Just make sure you're okay with your own decision whatever you decide to do. Feel free to talk to me about anything else if needed. Best wishes, Miss K.
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reader, Crisy +, writes (12 January 2008):
 personally i think its really sweet of a guy to wait until hes in love, it makes the girl feel specail. ok im a bit of a hypocrit here and i totally agree with the uk being full of underage sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): I don't know any female who had sex before about 16-17 that didn't basically regret it in retrospect. Some even older than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): i think there is nothing wrong with having sex until your 18 or older, i have sex but im in love, im only 17 and the first time i had sex was when i was 15 but i knew i was going to be with this man forever, and yea i could have waited but it just happened...but i dont think that you should have sex unless your ready. and when you are ready be protected..and you need to carry protection too dont reliy on him to...and tell someone when you do so you can have help if you have questions...
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reader, daletom  +, writes (8 January 2008):
You need to read the thread "Virginity questions, help?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/virginity-questions-help.html
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (7 January 2008):
 its when people think they are ready there is no certain time where you HAVE to have sex...although i would recommend waiting until you are legal if you were considering it.
Some people find that they regret having it young and not waiting for a proper love others well dont.
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (7 January 2008):
 Sex is an each to thier own thing, wait as long as you want. When the time comes youll know it. And your correct, i was 14 when i lost mine, but, if i could have gone back i would have waited, so ive been and made my mistake. I think when people take sex as a 'everybodys doing it so i have to aswell' situation then it loses all meaning, sex should be about how 2 people feel about each other. At the end of the day, its up2 you to decide when the times right.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 Everyone doesn't have sex before 16 in the UK. The average age of losing your virginity in the UK is 17. Most people pretend to have had sex, lie about it, or just keep quiet.
It is TOTALLY OK to wait until 18. You should wait until you feel comfortable about it, and especially wait until you find the right person to do it with. The biggest mistake people make is to feel they 'have to lose it' and so just do it with whoever is handy. That can result in a whole heap of problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): OK? That's fantastic if you can wait that long! A lot of people become products of pier pressure. If you can stay away from that then I'm sure you will be fine. You don't want to be tied up with responiblites if you don't use protection now do you?
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