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writes:Im 17 and I love children. I think that sometimes they are the cutest ever. I have been having weird thoughts lately though. My parent would kill me if it ever happened at my age though, I would have no support what so ever. So here is my question: Is it weird that at my age I want to have a baby? I know Im too young, but I think about alot. Why would I be feeling this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): You're not weird or anything; it's happening to me too. I'm 18 and I live with my fiancée. He's 26. I've always loved babies and my mom had my youngest sister just last year, so I've been around the screaming and poopy diapers, but I adore her! We recently had a pregnency scare, but I was just a week late. I was scared at first, but I grew to like the idea of a baby and when I finally started my period, I actually cried because I wasn't pregnent. I know it's not a good time to have a baby yet, but my bestfriend is pregnent and I just want to be a mommy so bad. My fiancée wants kids really bad too, but we both know- logically- that it's a bad time. That dosen't help the wanting though. I know it's not much, but you're not alone in this. Someday, I'll have my baby. I just wish it was now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): sometimes i feel a bit broody but it passes. maybe the same thing will happen to you. whatever you do, DO NOT have a baby now! alot of people want babies because they want ssomething that loves them and NEEDS them, if your feeling low or something or lonely that could be why.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Just to add in, I've been feeling baby-crazy since the age of 14. What keeps me from living out the dream of children at an early age is: I want a husband too and finding good men require som years of dating, I want both me and my man to have good jobs so we can fully support children and live comfortably. Since I don't find older men interesting (Im just not attracted to them), I need to wait for my boyfriend to graduate and find a job, as a potential husband of mine should have an education as well.
I could go on and on, but as you see, good planning takes some years. We just have to be patient! And yes, your thoughts as normal.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (17 June 2010):
It is quite common. A quick search on dearcupid's database would tell you how common. We see young teens on here all the time, wishing for a baby. I think it is yuor hormones that cause this. Your body is maturing, and you get these desires to make babies. Not saying we all do, but I am willing to bet that as many as 70-80% of women feel these urges when they hit puberty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for all your answers. I know I'm not going to go out and get pregnant now, because no career ect. I also know I want a stable career before I have a baby, it is just the though, and its kinda weird because awhile back I said I would never have children, then all of a sudden I do. Thankyou for all your answers again
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reader, Topazapella  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 I felt exactly the same from at least the age of sixteen. It's completely natural as our bodies are fully matured for having children at this age even though because of the way society has changed, our minds aren't. If you think back to as little as a few hundred years ago, it was completely normal to have a child at this age! But I guess people didn't live as long then, so everything had to be done faster... I'm 22 now and have a seven month old daughter who I love so much but there is no way I would have been ready for her at 17, even though I did want her, I had a lot of other issues to work through back then. Sometimes I can't help thinking that I could have done with another year really although I in no way regret having her. It's not so much that I've lost my freedom because I fully believe that having a baby doesn't have to hold you back in any way. It's more that I've simply lost time to be me! I only ever seem to have time to be Mummy now and whilst I love that also, it's probably best to spend more time finding and being yourself before you only have time to be Mummy! Hope thi helps...
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 I know a lot of girls who feel the same way as you do, especially friends of mine as I'm 21 and expecting my second child. When they look at my 2 year old, they go "baby-crazy" and say she's so cute, they want one too.
Ask oldersister is right, babies and children are "cute" but babies and children aren't easy either. It's not all peaches and cream until they reach pre-adolescence. In the beginning they're fully reliant on you but can't tell you what's wrong so you have to guess. There's the sleepless nights and the costs of having a child are truely unbelievable. You should never have a child just because you want something to cuddle and love. Then you should get a pet.
You don't sound like your going to go out and get pregnant now, so I don't feel I need to tell you to enjoy being young and not having anyone rely on you constantly. I'm also not trying to put you off being a mother forever, I love my daughter with my all and my everything and being a mom is the most fulfilling thing I've ever done.
It is normal to feel what you're feeling though. Maybe try and find a baby sitting job or something similar that allows you to play with and cuddle children but at the end of the day, you still have you independence.
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reader, myp +, writes (17 June 2010):
 This is totally normal. I had this issue, i still do sometimes. I used to walk through the childrens section in clothing stores, and i would swear that my uterus was talking to me. Or get all doe eyed in the baby food section at the grocery store. then you start thinking about how good you are with children and how cute the baby would be because it would look like you and your boyfriend/husband. And then you have to stop. What stopped me more than anything was finances, i dont want to bring a child into this world on welfare, ive eaten government cheese and lived in section 8 housing. its not a healthy environment for children, and i didnt want my hypothetical children growing up with me as their example if those were my circumstances. Every woman wants her children to grow up and be successful, and attend college and live a financially stable life; and in order to make that a possibility you have to show them how to do it, you have to set an example. And if youre giving birth at 16-17 with no career and no education how will they ever learn to be successful? Show your future children how hard you worked and how successful YOU were and they'll follow like ducks.
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