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*atashaAnne
writes:I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm only attracted to older men... like 35-65. I have never been attracted to anyone my age. Is this normal? If not what's wrong with me?
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reader, LoveJoy  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Same situation here.I adore my science teacher, who is 24, and find most older males sexy in a way its scary, but to be honest most boys in their teens are not nice. So i just get on with my life as it is, through the pain and i know one day i'll find mr right...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Nothing wrong with you. But let me ask, do you live with both parents, or only your mother? If your father isn't around, that may explain your attraction to older men. Do you fantasize about having sex with them? If so, are there any older men in particular that you are attracted to? Like one of your friend's dads or uncles or a teacher at school, etc.?
Not good for you to get in a relationship with an older man right now, cuz it's against the law and he could go to jail. Wait until you reach the age of consent (17 in some places, 18 in others) so it will be legal for you to be in such a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): I am in my twenties and I have never dated a man my age. Typically, I date men anywhere from 38-45. I don't know why, it not a conscious decision, those are the guys that I am attracted to. I honestly don't think it is about looks as much as personality.It may be that you identify with older men because you think they are more serious, mature and in a word....safe. However, maturity doesn't always come with age. I have met 40 year olds that have the mentality of 20 year olds (absolutely no difference at all). There is nothing wrong with you but you should not be involved with an older man right now. Age difference is fine but only if the two people in the relationship are adults. Right now, if you were to get involved with an older man...first it would be illegal but more importantly I can guarantee that he would be in it only for sex. Stay smart and be safe.
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reader, Torianne +, writes (11 July 2008):
 I think its just a development of puberty. When i was the same age I had crushes on older men, generally film stars and singers. i think its perfectly normal to be attracted to older men when you possibly see them as "Perfect".
As long as you are not in a relationship with someone of that age I think this is perfectly normal and will fade as you get older.
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reader, tux  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Geez I'm 5 years too young.. I'm just kidding here.. But you should be careful and not act on any of your attractions towards these older men. You will have nothing in common with them and all they will be looking for is sex. They won't care for you. You need to enjoy your life and remember that you do not necessarily even need to be dating at your age. Enjoy life and worry about everything else later. You do not need to date a father-figure because they will just be a bad father-figure to look up to.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Lets me take a wild guess here, could be looking for a father figure?
What kind of relationship do you have with your father if there even is one?
There are all sorts of reasons for a girl as young as you to be attracted to old farts, father complex is one.
Frankly at your age, your emotions are running amok and there might be any number of reasons why right now you seem to be falling for old men.
It might be nothing, just a phase.
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