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41-50,
*aseymarie
writes:My boyfriend has a issue with porn and watching other women on the internet. we worked out the whole porn thing but for some reason he will not leave watching other girls alone. I've expressed my emotions to him about it but he just cant leave it alone. he says it makes him happy! dont i make you happy... yeah more then anything is the answer i get. i let him watch porn when we are together all he wants.. IS IT NORMAL FOR HIM TO STILL HAVE THE NEED TO PULL GIRLS UP ON THE COMPUTER?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 May 2011):
 It depends from what you mean with " normal ". If you mean, every man does it, heck no. If you mean other men do it too, sure they do.
I think the problem is not to assess how normal this is in the general scheme of things, but whether you are willing and able to accept it or not. He is not gonna stop, - you asked him , and he refused. Therefore now you have to decide if you can tolerate this habit graciously, or if you'd better kick him out of your life.
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reader, caseymarie +, writes (4 May 2011):
caseymarie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have no problem with the porn. We both enjoy porn. For me when it comes to him checking out another female it tends to bother me. He has cheated in the past an it is fact that he has a problem with sex.. When i think of him looking at other females it brings back all of the other crap he has done. The cheating is something we are working through, i feel if he knows the looking bothers me then he shouldnt. he wants to look at a girl pop her junk around i can do that for him. yeah i may not be able to do it as well as others but i try an practice. I do so much for him cause i love him. why does he need other females cheating or looking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): Look, guys have needs that vary, and not all of them are met by our GF's. If I want to watch a chick take a huge cock some place, then I'm surfing... not going to my GF's house to try it on her. Looking at Playboy magazine, or porn on the web is all the same thing- something different, like junk food.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (2 May 2011):
 Is it normal? Depends on who you ask. What I will say without a doubt is that if you've compromised on this issue, his continuing to do something he knows hurts you shows very little respect for you. After all, he hasn't given up jack and you're doing your best to deal with it. That's not really fair in my book.
Some guys will continue to look at pictures of women, or porn, and it won't affect how they feel for you. Given what you've described here however I would say he has a problem. Perhaps it's an addiction, or a compulsion, or he just really doesn't care how you feel. Whatever the case, you need to decide if this kind of behavior is really what you want out of your BF. If it's not, then you should leave him. Good job for making an effort at compromise. Too bad he was too much of a jerk to realize how lucky he was.
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